my husband and i have been having a very rocky relationship lately, fighting all the time, no communication, much hurt and emotional abuse.. we have been together for 6 years and i took my vows very seriously... i have been dealing with crohn's disease for many years now and he has seen me through that and been very supportive, but lately, he doesn't give a rats bum about anything... i am only 25 and have a lot of life ahead of me, but i would like to do whatever i can to protect my vows.. he, on the other hand, has pretty much given up.. i have made an appointment with a counselor for 2 weeks from now, but i am not sure if we will make it that long... should i let him go, or ask him to stay till we can at least go see the counceler?
2007-02-17 21:48:48 · 7 answers · asked by shiningstar1313 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my man goes through periods of similar behavior, if you stay with him you will always have to be ready for this side of him, even if he turns around and starts being good to you again. What you need to do, for yourself, is start building yourself up on the inside. FInd something you like to do in this world that has nothing to do with your husband, and develop yourself. Not only will your future be brighter, you will be happier. And your husband will respect you for it, too.
2007-02-17 22:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crohns disease can be very debilitating and create nervous tension. If he doesn't understand you and, what your going through, what can you say.
I'm sorry that some people cannot understand what another is going through. I myself have osteoarthritis in the severe degenerative stages and have had many hospital treatments. My spouse has stayed next to me and suffered through it all with me. What more could I ask.
Some people cannot be bothered. I would ask him point blank and tell him if it bothers him that much to hit the road. He's not going to change for you and give you relief or support. Your going to be on your own. That's to bad. Hang in there.
2007-02-18 06:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him do what he thinks is right. I also take my vows seriously but you can't make someone stay if they are unhappy it will only be heartache for you. If he wants to leave let him and go to the counselor by yourself if he doesn't want to go. He may just need to take a step away from you to regroup and think his life through. I know that is hard to imagine if you are still in love but he isn't sure and your vows won't mean anything to him if you force him to stay.
2007-02-18 11:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chronic illness can weighs heavily on a marriage. Your husband may need some space and may feel he cannot continue in the relationship. Have an honest and frank, kind and compassionate discussion. Tell him you understand how hard it must be for him and ask him what would make a difference in his wanting to stay or not? Ask him if he would be willing to see a counselor with you. Tell him you love him and are willing to work hard to make the marriage work. If he decides to go, you can not restrain him.
2007-02-18 05:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a commitment to the relationship, but he is unsure. You have taken the right steps by going to a marriage counsellor, but he has to have some interest in saving the marriage as well. If he attends counselling, then you may have a chance. Good luck and hope it works out..
2007-02-18 05:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Michael T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him remember the reason you both married each other and sit and listen to him find out what is bothering him. Then go from there, love always wins in the end.
2007-02-18 05:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by IzzieB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes gettin ready to dump you.
2007-02-18 05:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by dcam47 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋