well its real simple..Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and ive known him for 2. were both virgins..and were thinking about "doing it". to tell you the truth..im only 15 and im curious to know what it is.He has already told me he doesnt want to do this if i dont want to. we both have precautions and we both know concequences. We have had that talk about abstinence and they always talk about getting an STD, but like i said were both virgins. so what should i do? do you think im "ready" for this??
i rather have advice from a woman since you know..(sorry guys)
2007-02-17 21:21:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
its just that in school..no one can really answer my question without calling me a whore or something.
2007-02-17 21:43:38 · update #1
If you're asking, you're probably not. And the fact of the matter is, he is probably not going to be the one you end up with. I lost my virginity at 16, and do not regret it, and have been very selective with my sexual partners since, each time considering the consequences. Know this: 1) having sex with him will not change what he thinks of you, good or bad. 2) having sex may not change anything except your curiosity about sex. 3) having sex without a lasting connection is meaningless, boring, and cheap. 4) Sometimes sex with a lasting connection is meaningless, boring, and/or cheap. 5) Virgins can have STDs and other nasties 6) Sex can be really bad. It's not always great.
My advice? Wait until you are ready, mind, heart, body and soul. Don't be impulsive, don't be pressured, don't pressure yourself. You have many years of sex ahead of you. Enjoy your curiosity a little longer; you'll probably appreciate, and therefore enjoy sex a lot more.
2007-02-17 22:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by itard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule # 1 - when in doubt - don't do it.
You are too young and you are single. The Bible says to be married first. If you give away your virginity now and then 10 years from now meet the love of your life, you will be sorry that you are not a virgin for him.
Let's see, having sex out of wedlock is a sin, it makes boys talk about you in the locker room behind your back, you could get pregnant no matter what kind of b.c. you use (I was married and on the pill and still got pregnant), you could get a STD, etc. etc.
Be a girl that men respect and that means no sex till marriage. Anytime someone does not follow the Bible's code of conduct - they usually end up in some kind of trouble. God gave us rules, ethics and guidelines because He loves us and knows these rules will keep us from harm.
2007-02-17 22:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Orion777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this decision is totally up to you, but I would wait. I know at this point in your life, you may think that you will be with this guy forever, but that may not go as you plan. I thought that in middle school, twice in high school, and now I am in college with a different guy than the other three. Kudos for discussing it before rushing into things, but you don't even feel comfortable using the phrase 'having sex,' so how do you think you will feel actually 'doing it?'
Also, being both virgins and so young will make it especially awkward and potentially painful for you if you haven't engaged in any other sexual activities.
If you do decide to go this route, I advise you use a condom at the least. Just remember they aren't 100% effective and the consequences are scary. You don't want to be graduating high school with a two year old.
2007-02-17 21:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by Cute Chica 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As I have seen many cases before, being virgins doesn't exclude you in risks. Of course you are questioning if you are ready. However if you question this than you are probably not! Try other things! However if you to do attempt sex remember USE A CONDOM!!! For each act of sex replace the condom to reduce risks associated. At 15 you dont need STD or Pregnancy. Hope this helps.
2007-02-17 21:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
B,
If you need to come here and ask a bunch of strangers, I doubt you're ready.
2007-02-17 21:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey im 15 too and i think you really shouln not do it and wait until you are older or married....
2007-02-18 01:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by narcissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it. That could mess up your friendship together.
2007-02-18 00:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, please do not! You can harm yourself. You are still growing and changing. See, i am christian, and I believe in "doing it" after marrige. Please wait until your done changing,and married, and it is good that your boyfriend understands that.
2007-02-17 22:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋