Is he the one?

Question

I'm 20 yrs old & my partner the same.We've been together 5 months. My parents met my partner about 2 months ago & they thought he was ok. I come from a very strict asian-european background & this was a big deal for me. We recently got 'promised' to each other- its all a blur as everything happened so fast. No I dont know if I want to marry him/or marry at all as he is not working but says he is looking 4 work. When i was LOOKIN 4 work I found it in 10 days coz i was LOOKIN. I also am attending university and I get alot of pressure from parents to 'hurry up and marry'. Most people I know marry between 16-18 so its as if I am GETTIN OLD. But I guess growing up in UK has made me european & I dont know if I even want 2 marry & If i end the relationship I know he will be deverstated as thats all he wants TO MARRY ME & to me that seems like a very sad goal in life. And also my family will be in horror-shock. Surely I should KNOW that ITS HIM, if I dont then thats a bad sign isnt it? dnt knw

Answer 1

5 months? That's way to early girl. 20 isn't old at all, that's very young. If you feel things are forced don't do it. I mean if I would get married one day, i would like to be about... 27 to 29 in that situation. You should find a guy who is responsible, and who will take care of you, and truly love you 4 you , and love u 4 the rest of his life, AND he SHOULD have work, how else is he going to feed his family? And what about shelter, clothing? You need to get to know him more than 5 months, way more than 5 months.

My advise:

Follow you're heart.

You're in charge of you and nobody else but you. Don't let people control you, never let them control you're life, no.

I hope you'll take my word 4 it. Hope you'll choose this as you're best answer. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Listen to your gut and only do what YOU know YOU can live with HAPPILY for the rest of YOUR LIFE. I understand the pressure of taking everyone elses feelings into consideration... and it's tough to disappoint people BUT that is a much better alternative to living a misterable life all because you didn't take a stand when you were young. They're not the ones who are going to have to sleep next tot his guy FOREVER. You need to do what's best for you.

Answer 3

This is written in the Hebrew Talmud, the book
where all of the sayings and preaching of
Rabbis are conserved over time.
It says: "Be very careful if you make a woman
cry, because God counts her tears. The woman
came out of a man's rib. Not from his feet to be
walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but
from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be
protected, and next to the heart to be loved."

Answer 4

Marrying the wrong person and or for the wrong reasons will cause you years of misery.
You have a problem that a Friend of mine had, please your parents or live the life you wish.
She chose the latter and when she found a man she liked and wanted to stay with she introduced her parent who reacted badly for a while until they saw she was happy and well looked after. now they all get on fine.

Answer 5

It may be that he is THE ONE, but you are still very young to marry and you probably just need more time to find this out. Stick with it if you want to, but don't if you don't. Do what is right for you, it is your life.

Answer 6

The answers simply : Do YOU want to spend the rest of your life with this man - Yes or No...

Don't worry about him or anyone else because its you that will have to make the marrage work forever!!

Answer 7

okay my sweet, if you have any doubts, don't marry him. You can't be expected to sprend your whole life with someone you aren'y sure about. speak to your parents about how they would feel if you didn't marry him, I understand that you are from a different culture, but they may surprise you and be very supportive.

Answer 8

It doesn't matter what your nationality is, if you are not excited about marrying him then he is NOT the one! Don't enter into a marriage & live a miserable life.