2007-02-17 21:05:18 · 6 answers · asked by casey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been together sence we were 16 &18 yrs old we have 2 boys and have been together for10 yrs. We had affairs ,both of us. He married me even after our mistakes.he so angry with me AND IS ALWAYS AT WORK
2007-02-17 21:11:19 · update #1
Everyone has bad experiences in matters of the heart, but you just have to be careful and remember that every person is different. Not everyone will be like the people that were involved in your bad experiences. Except for the really, really lucky ones, everyone goes through bad experiences - it's basically a part of dating. Just add your experiences to your knowledge and know that you are not looking for a guy who treats you the way he did, or is involved in the things that he was, or whatever the case may be, and take things slowly with new guys you begin dating and you should be just fine!
Good luck!
2007-02-17 21:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ro-Ro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over the final is the main hurdle right here. in case you won't be in a position to place the previous in the back of you then you definately haven't any wish of ever being able to have confidence all people thoroughly back. i'm sorry to take heed to what has befell on your previous, yet you will possibly desire to attempt and stop comparing each and every guy to those who've harm you, or you will continuously anticipate the worst and the relationship will by no potential artwork.no longer each and every guy will cheat or hit you, maximum adult men are respectable people who choose for a similar out of life as your self.
2016-10-02 08:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "he married you even after your mistakes" how about his, don't they count?
It's hard to get on in life after going through an affair, I know I've been there. You can forgive but it's hard to forget. You have to make a decision and live by it. Once made, it's your decision but, you can't keep bringing it up and living with it. Vengeance is just as bad and eats away like a cancer.
You live by the experience and learn or walk away and start over but, it can happen again.
2007-02-17 22:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a month or so ago i was with you on this one - i've been stuffed around by almost everyone in my life and chose to "protect" myself by using the good old "build myself an almighty emotional wall" to keep out all the baddies! ;-) bad method of dealing with the issue i assure you!
but woke me up was nearly losing the love of my life because i refused to trust him or believe he really loved me - after i finally woe up and saw how much i was hurting the one person who had NEVER hurt me i realised i couldn't do it anymore and i wa missing out on so much!
forgiveness is the key i think - corny i know but it works - it's just a way to close a door on that chapter of your life and open up he next one - start completely fresh!
trust until your given a reason not to and if that happens learn from it and move on.
2007-02-17 21:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by StockRdHappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trusting someone is loving him with all your heart.no matter what happens, it is still the person you love. have a heart that will forgive and forget. after all its just a matter of bad experience.follow your heart
2007-02-17 21:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Milcres S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think of it this way..
through ur bad experiences u can now know whom you shud put ur trust on..
2007-02-17 21:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by cute11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋