from involved romantically to good friendship but still grey areas.....as in lots and lots of phones and texts from the gentleman. Also the honesty content.....blurred. He is seeing and flirting with other women and bedding......but still pursues and will not answer questions honestly so at least the female is equipped with knowledge on which to base her decisions.........have not thrown phone away and not responding to contact as discovered he was taking a woman away this wekend but told me was going with a male friend.
Has he the right to be agressive and have indignation over this.....
I hate the lies.....he claims none of my business......but to me a freindship or any relationship is surely based on an honest answer to an honest question.....?
Am I off beam here
2007-02-17 20:38:54 · 11 answers · asked by pipsqueek 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are definately not off beam here! Honesty is vital in any relationship-and he obviously has a real problem with that.
He wasn't known as Snuggybear on a site was he? Lol
2007-02-18 07:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
(tiring to understand this)
You wrote, "If a relationship has supposedly moved?
from involved romantically to good friendship..."
Meaning- You were involved now just friends, but he's not being up front about certain issues and If I understood correct ?
Maybe he not telling you he's seeing other women because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Knows you couldn't handle the truth.
Even though lien isn't right!
Then why tell you anything, give him space. He is right though it isn't any of your business. Until he brings it up, if he choose to.
Vise a verse.
The way I see it, if you really want to continue your friendship is to do whatever it is you, and let him live his life.
A good friend is one who doesn't judge.
You are more or less sounding like you want more than just friends and don't like this new arrangement?
Maybe your not ready in your heart to except just being his friend.
I have a lot of friends but we don't get upset at one an others life style or get our nose out of joint just because they are doing whatever, with who ever.
It's just not healthy, to be thinking 24-7 what he's up to.
If still deeply in love with him and can't or not ready to move on,
I really think you should, because from what you wrote he already has and having a good time at it!
And that my friend is actually what you should be doing!
Phone up some other friends, get out, stop worrying about what he is, or isn't doing.
It's not healthy for one to be wondering where, when and with who he is or been with.
Life is to short!
Could be wrong just my opinion. Anyhow I hope all works out.
2007-02-17 21:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never a basis for friendship or any relationship if honesty is lacking. To say things not answered becsause none of your business is crass......because then still pursues with contact and almost wants exclusitivity to you but giveslittle in return.
Walk away from this mental abuse because that is waht it amounts to no one deserves being held on the end of a twitching thread. He will hang himself in the end if he has no integrity when it comes to honest dealings with others.
2007-02-17 20:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds exactly like what I have been going through and last week after about 2.5yrs i exploded about it we talked and fingers crossed things will hopefully get better and we can hopefully continue our friendship but really its not ur business if he does or doesn't take away a female friend but I'd like to think he thought enough of you to give you honest answers
2007-02-17 21:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has the right to do whatever he wants then so do you. It looks like you have 2 choices you either go along with the new relationship and do your own thing or end it and move on to find someone new who doesn't want to play silly games. Some men think that they can do what they want when they want but you have to be readily available when they want to see you.
2007-02-17 20:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
But he is a free agent and is able to do what he likes. The fact that he told you he was with a male friend and not a female one, shows that he knows what your reaction would be. You obviously still have romantic feelings about him and he knows this.
2007-02-18 01:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and icing too! Dump his butt!!!! Lies and Aggressiveness is trouble and it's just not fair for him to keep you hanging. Get out and date that way you are not tempted to answer the phone when he calls. Let him find out from mutual friends that you have moved on.
2007-02-17 21:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by Atropabelladonna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get your own independance and move on. Too much confusion and he's got you hanging on a string - not good!
2007-02-17 20:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's being agressive, then he is no longer a friend.
2007-02-17 20:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by Gladys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beam me up SCOTTY beam me up ... Hey ya all,,, heres to all my sistas...A little too hard core ..... Iv'e been keep in it country, so let me hear a big ....."Hell ya""..... from a red neck like me!
2007-02-17 21:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by htrime 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋