Should I want him back? I've asked this before, Just looking for advice..?

Question

We was together for 7 years..Since I was 17 and been living together going on 4 years..This wasn't a planned pregnancy but he was REALLY excited and I was the one depressed for awhile. He is from up north and I am from the south. We was supposed to move to Wyoming because his dad could get him a job making 4 more grand a month, we was struggling with bills. His dad called about a month ago and said the job would not be there for long, so he moved up there. I was going see him for 2 weeks so we could pick out a house..He calls me almost 2 weeks ago and breaks up with me..I don't know what is going on with him. He calls me everyday and I only answer every now and then. Last week he was like WE ARE OVER,move on. So, now I am acting like I am moving on and he calls and wants to talk forever, he askes about me all the time. I don't know if he is scared because of the baby..Do you think he will come back? Sorry so long

His dad ran out on his mom when she was pregnant and my father did the same thing. He said he wouldn't repeat the same pattern but he is..Should I let him know the door is open incase he is too ashamed to come back? I have been reading self help books because he says that I took him for granted and I think that I may have...He knows that I am trying to better myself for our relationship and because I do not want my baby to have negative influences.
I don't believe he is seeing another woman or girl, but you never know. He works 14 hours, 7 days a week with his dad and his step mom keeps me well informed. His days basically consist of work,eat,shower, sleep. You never can tell though.
We actually went up there in December to check out the whole job thing..and I didn't believe he could make that much and his dad showed me his pay stubs. We was having money issues because I was having a hard pregnancy and quit my job but still going to school full-time. He is being selfish.

Answer 1

unless he has a valid reason for breaking up with you... i personally wouldn't take him back.
he seems very immature and lacks communication skills. someone who can just break up with you like that while you're going through a difficult pregnancy-- without even giving you a reason-- seems like no good. if it was so easy for him to dump you during a rough time, theres no stopping him from doing it again if you take him back.
something is definately going on, maybe he is afraid, cheating, who knows...
try and talk to him, you guys are in a serious situation and if the relationship can survive you guys should try for the baby, but definately don't force it because being in a negative relationship will not do you any good nor the baby.
But ask him whats going on, he may not know how to be a father bc he lacked that figure in his life...but usually guys from that situation strive to be the father that they never had.
if he won't talk to you then you guys may need to work out a situation so both of you can support the child while not being in a romantic relationship.
good luck. congrats on the baby- wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

I comprehend that you want to carry on the custom including your aspect of the kinfolk, yet you do have an completely new kinfolk now and it's time to initiate your human being traditions. Make a compromise.considering this is going to be your infant's first Christmas, i do agree that it must be the three of you to delight in at a particular time. delight on your kinfolk time Christmas Eve, open the resources at your position and spend time mutually and then upward push up in the previous in the morning and head on your mom's domicile so that you'll watch your infant get that is resources from them. Christmas comes each and every 3 hundred and sixty 5 days so this can be a not in any respect ending conflict on your kinfolk and also you'll't continually have it your way. it would not count number if the custom all started in the previous your husband got here into the picture...he's in the picture now and he's your kinfolk, he would not prefer to experience like you're figuring out on the previous over him, he needs to initiate new traditions with you. you need to come across a fashion to compromise each and every 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and persons will be disillusioned at one time or yet another yet that is basically how issues take position.

Answer 3

Wow... This is a pretty serious question.

I presume you are going to have and keep the baby?

Do you love him?

I mean actually really love?

Do you love him enough to marry and have a family with?

Do you guys have issues that would bubble to the surface 5 years and 2 more kids later?

If you think he is right for you then you need to try and have a serious conversation with him.

Tell him you want to be with him and want him to be your husband and father of your child. Tell him you are willing and want to get professional counseling.

But if he is a deadbeat don't try to get him to marry you because you are scared.

Answer 4

you have to remember that's his dad he might cover for him.you can let him know the door is open and wait a little while then tell him to make up his mind and move on with your life.dont let him string you on.if hes working all those hours then its going to be hard on the family and you.if he dont want you back it dont mean he dont want any thing to do with the baby.i think you guts need to think of the baby.people just think of there self these days they need to think of whats best foe the kids.they shouldn't be together if all there going to do is fight so you to give him a dead line and move on.it sound to me he might have some one there and wants to keep you in his good in case it dont work he can come back to you.

Answer 5

i think you and baby would be a lot better off with out him. If hes scared now what till he has to take care of the baby hes not going to stick around. Ive seen a lot of guys do this because of the respon they dont want it.

Answer 6

i would not take him back and when he called i would tell him to stop calling me and to move on. if he wanted you he would not have done this to you and the baby. theres more going on then what he is telling. andif he tells you it's over why does he keep calling.something is not right there and i would be asking and not just him

Answer 7

If he's sending you money, then do try to make this work, but otherwise he's stringing you along and you should sue for child support.