how do you keep yourself focused on you and not on the situation you are in. how do you make yourself NOT pick the phone up and call? how do you just keep sane?
break-ups are tough :-( especially when you had such a good relationship.
2007-02-17 19:51:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I read this yesterday. Maybe it will help you.
" True security doesn't come from 'having' another person, but from seeing that you are capable of completing yourself. Could it be that you're giving a relationship too much credit for defining your sense of self?"
To answer your question...you don't pick up the phone out of respect for his wishes. If you really care about him, you have to let him choose his own path too, and it may not include you. It sucks, but if you were the one leaving him, you'd feel fine about it if it's what you wanted, right? Show him what a mature, self-confident woman you are...and you'll see that you are just that--fine without him.
When I was a teenage er, my Dad would tell me when I was upset about a boy: " If he calls you, thank God. If he doesn't call, thank God."
Hope you feel better soon.
2007-02-17 19:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is that good for two people, why the break up. Let's face it somebody is not happy and is asking for space because of that reason.
You do an affirmation that the person has rights and you do something good for yourself like take yourself to a movie or dinner, get a massage. Call your friends up and make a deal with them that you are hurting and need to call them when you want to call him while you are in the getting over him stage.
Take care and this will pass. Read the poem. "Now That's Love" on the P-Education page of the website listed.
2007-02-17 20:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have a computer.......use icq or something and talk to others. Play online games...like Text Twist. Read everything you ever wanted to know about every subject on the net. Use Answers/Voting and make yourself useful. Write a book (diary).....try to remember ever single detail of your time together, wallow from go to woe and keep it for later reads.
Take up cooking and learn some new recipes, go for long walks and party sometimes.
2007-02-17 20:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it must have been as good as you though...Think about what it was that made the break up happen...Why is it that he needs space? Normally these time out means it is over...What you need to do is go on with your life, waiting for someone is not a good thing, makes you crazy...Just pull yourself together and find someone new...
2007-02-17 19:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough. But when someone says they need space, trust me: they need space. Calling/texting/emailing only makes things worse.
One thing that works for me: sweat. Go to the gym. Run. Lift weights. I find it very hard to be focused on another person when I am doing hard physical work.
2007-02-17 19:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by pasdeberet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation myself. My fiance wanted space...I broke down last night and finally called him, I really just needed someone to talk to and he has been my best friend for 8 years...Now I wish I wouldn't have..Because I do feel weak..He calls me alot but I am pregnant also with his baby, but I planned a vacation this week to go out of town to visit family and I am hoping it will help me get my mind off of him. Also, shopping helps! Well it helps me.
2007-02-17 20:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by angelsdeath420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you fearing but fear itself. Go out and have a good time. If it's not meant to be then it's not meant to be. Think about it, if it were such a good relationship you wouldn't be asking this question, would you. Smile. :>)
2007-02-17 20:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
plan your day and make yourself busy to the extent that you do not have time to think about past relations and break ups. i think this way works best , i have been using this tech for long a time to avoid distractions and things which make me feel down
2007-02-17 19:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by mihir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. To be straightforward, i did no longer study the paragraph. lol. yet enable her have some me time. enable her loosen up, relax with the girls, only enable her breath. do no longer enable her experience smothered. she would be in a position to continually have you ever, yet she could stability out her existence and herself by ability of having somewhat area each now and then. you recognize the type you prefer to observe activities and kick it with the adult men? nicely she prefer an identical ingredient, only in any different case. The greater she miss you, the greater she would be in a position to in all probability make up for it. lol. So only enable it flow. enable her have her area and you will have yours
2016-11-23 16:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by cordell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always very hard , all advices you get is good but your brain will always ask :WHAT IF,
so just get involved in things to have your time full and time will solve it .
2007-02-17 20:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋