You are best friends and your best friends spouce you saw with another woman being intimate and not just a friendly way either. Your friend is happy and hasn't a single clue she's been cheated on. At even the risk of ruining the marriage, would you tell your friend or would you giv the hubby a chance to come forward?
Is this what friends do even though it hurts?
Sticky!!!
2007-02-17 19:48:10 · 16 answers · asked by John S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that is an absolute awful situation to be in. However, you friend will eventually respect you much more and think of you as a much better human being if you go ahead and just break it to him gently. He might not talk to you for a while, but I swear he will get over it. If he does not, then he does not deserve to be your friend anyway.
2007-02-17 19:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by lindsay h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you at the wedding? If you were at the wedding, then you are obligated to do what you think is necessary to for both parties as they vowed to honor each other.
What would a friend do to someone who has vowed to honor each other?
Seems to me that the priest or pastor etc. ask all there tha tare witnessing the marriage to agree to support the couple as well as the couple agreeing to uphold the vows before God.
He is wrong for having to put you in that position-so how dare he get mad at you for his breaking the rule!
When someone finds out that their friends knew and did not even say anything??????????
Maybe check with other friends and see what they say. I know someone whose family ostracized a family member for a while for cheating on the wife and this really helped when the entire family got involved.
2007-02-18 03:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do unto others as u would want them 2 do 2 u
blind happiness 4 a moment is very painful if the nxt moment brings hurt.go ahead&tell.save her from an unfaithful husband
but soften the blow.quickest surgery is least painful,so tell her soon befor her luv deepens.if u dont tell her u r cheating her.
but before,try 2 get the husband 2 reform
2007-02-18 04:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by alanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its a bad situation. However, if your friend finds out that you knew all along, she may not forgive you. Tell her husband what you saw and that he has the opportunity to tell her. Chances are she wont believe you anyway.
2007-02-18 03:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by friday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like your best friend and want to stay that way, you shouldn't be the one to tell her...She'll forgive her husband and you will be out of the picture for saying anything. The messenger in these situations always loses...
2007-02-18 04:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell it. Because when she finds out you knew and your excuse is " I was waiting for the hubby to come forward "she will be upset with you. So think about it.
2007-02-18 03:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say anything to your friend... as for the cheater you could tell them you know and that they need to tell there spouse and that you dont want the burden knowing what you know. telling your friend will only hurt them and then your relationship with your friend will more then likely go bad.. reason being the other person will think there life was good and normal till you told what you knew. lots of times you will even be stuck in the middle of it and thats not good. i know i wouldnt tell my friend and i wouldnt want my friend telling me.. your friend will find out in due time and will need you to be there friend more then ever at that time. good luck
2007-02-18 03:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will all come out in the wash.... Do not tell but hint so your friend can find out on his own!!!!! When he finds out then you will have to tell what you knew if you want to be honest w your friend. It is not up to you to destroy what the other people already did!
2007-02-18 04:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by htrime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Give him a chance to come forward"? You're kidding, right?
The chances of that happening are slim to none. If you really are best friends, you need to tell her.
2007-02-18 03:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advise would be to confront the cheating husband. let him know that he has one of these choices: 1-he must tell his wife 2- stop cheating, or you will tell his wife 3-stop cheating -and- tell his wife. i dont think the best answer for you would be to run to the wife and tell. the husband should handle his mistake. best wishes
2007-02-18 04:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋