I have a friend who is a pessimist. How do I let her know what a downer she is?

Answer 1

Some people are just naturally like that, it's in their personality. I don't know how you could let her know without hurting her feelings.

Maybe one day, you become even more pessimistic than her, and she will see how bad it is, and maybe learn to change from that.

Answer 2

If you a real good friend, she should be able to take you comments without getting her feelings hurt. Just make sure you do it in a way that is not attacking her. Also you have to have a solution. Try giving her little tips on how to help herself. If I were you, just be straight up with her. Say. "Hey, can we have a serious discussion? Your one of my good friends, and I want to keep it that way, but I used to be very pessimistic like you a couple of months ago and I found out a way to be less pessimistic...." You get the point. Or you can even give her a problem that she can help you with and then tactfully offer to help her with hers. Well, good luck to you! And remember you can't always change someones personality, and it takes time!

Answer 3

I would bring the whole optimist/pessimist topic up oneday in casual conversation with her and then say something like dang we are both pessimists we should both try to work on being more optimistic, even though your not it won't sound like your pointing fingers and it also can be easier to bring up in the future.

Answer 4

well, it depends on how bad she is, it could be because she is dperessed about something. if she was a somewhat positive person in the past and slowly has become a downer maybe thats the problem. try asking them if everything is ok, because it seems like they are upset. most people appreciate the thought.

Answer 5

I am not usually one for dumping friends, but if she is bringing you down, then maybe it is time for you to back away from her a little. If you can handle it and she is not bringing you down, then try to be supportive of her. Is this new or is she a negative person in general? I have found that most negative people want you to feel badly about yourself too; this is what makes them feel better.

Only you can decide if the friendship is worth is though.

Good luck to you.

Answer 6

The best way to tell your pessimist how much of a drowner she is, simply tell her that her ambition is strictly related to pessimism

Answer 7

i had a friend like that optimism got no where with her but all of a sudden agreeing with her did and that just made me depressed so i tried telling her made up stories of other people and how depressing it must b for the person(being u) who has to listen to it and then say to her thank god we aren't like that...mayb she'll pick it up if not cut her out..who needs extra negative energy in this hectic world.....mayb then she might get it and still NOT then tell her straight up in a way that doesnt dig her in a deeper depressed hole..........

Answer 8

She is what she is---you be who you are--the world is made up of a LOT of people---you won't always agree with them---she's a downer??? Find new friends if it bothers you---

Answer 9

u can tell ur fren indirectly by u takin the role as a pessimistic for a week.. & hope tat she gets the message....

Answer 10

does she complain a lot? if so, ask her why she complains so much.. she will most likely deny it and be like "i dont complain all the time" and that might wake her up... also remind her of all the beauty around you.. take her on a walk on the beach or in a park so she can see how wonderful things really are...