She's irritable and is ALWAYS grumpy! I know what she's going through, but my 14 year old brother doesn't. I try my best to help out where ever is needed I always do my homework, I don't go out partying, I try and keep very quiet and out of the way and don't ask for very much.
My brother is so rude, he makes a mess and never does his homework, complains he wants to do something and can't get there because mum's working.
But no matter what I do, I'm always the one getting yelled at. Mum takes everything out on me! It's effecting me mentally because now I don't even go out and see my friends because I believe it's too much of a hassle for my Mum.
My Dad doesn't have a role in our lives and my Mum is a single parent.
What can I do? Please help!
2007-02-17 19:25:46 · 9 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I do stuff all the time. I don't even go out on the weekend I don't want to be a burden. I know it's not an easy job, I do understand she needs someone to take her anger out on, but it is ALWAYS me!
2007-02-17 19:48:18 · update #1
It's nice that you are trying so hard to be the good daughter, but you shouldn't put your life on hold. Menopause can last for years. This isn't your responsibility and you're not doing your mother any favors by being the scapegoat for all of her anger. She needs to find other ways of dealing with her menopausal moods. If you're not around, she'll find ways to deal with it.
You may also want to ask your school guidance counselor if they have any advice on how you can talk with your mom about this - to get her to take some action for herself and her family.
Good luck!
2007-02-17 23:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mother is confused and is having a hard time dealing with this. Does she have a close girlfriend? If so talk to the lady and see is she can talk to your mom. With your brother....try to make things right asap. I know this is not fair to you but you are the oldest. Clean the house, make dinner do as much as you can. Make your mom tea, make her a cake, leave her cute little I love you notes but dont bring up the M word! Your brothers homework is his own deal and he is old enough to know that he needs to do this. Tell your friends whats going on and if they are true friends they will try and understand why you cant go out all the time. MAybe go out only on the weekends. I know its gonne suck but this will not last very long I swear! My step mom just had the same thing. It was crazy but we learned to deal with it
2007-02-17 19:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried doing something nice for her like cleaning the house or cooking an easy meal, being a single mom is the hardest job ever and she's stressed that's why she yells at you.Try talking to her about how you feel, try asking her what could you do to help her,I realize you're trying hard already but may be she needs a confidant. Good luck.
2007-02-17 19:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-15 22:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop doing stuff, so that when your mum yells at you at least she is yelling at you for a reason
You being the older one will always get in trouble....which to me seems crap.........i hate when parents do that
You could try talking to her, but i doubt you will get very far, but at least you might feel better afterwards
2007-02-17 23:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by mary L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your mom is going through more than menopause. menopause is a lot like going through teen years for adults. her hormones are all screwed up. she sounds depressed. either way you shouldn't let it interfere with your growing up and being social with your friends. you need to get away from her now and then. spend some time having fun. then you will be able to deal with it a little better. getting yourself depressed will only add to your problems. your brother is 14. its time he learned to deal with his own problems.
2007-02-17 20:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by jacqueline j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom has been going through the same thing for years. I haven't found a solution to it yet, but just know that you aren't the only one suffering. :(
2007-02-17 20:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by Scarlett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she takes it out on you because she knows you will not take it personally and you are there for her when she is in an OK mood try talking to her let her know its starting to get to you and your brother will never get it and he will do what he thinks he can get away with let him know you will no longer cover for him
2007-02-17 22:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check out when your mom is in a good mood and try to explain your problem to her, i am sure she might understand tell her you love her a lot..
2007-02-17 22:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by Richa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋