i divorced, he is in the process of the divorce, but back in sept i find out he has another gf. He's telling me to wait until his d is final, comes up and well ya know w/me. then days go bye w/o hearing from him. yeah he still has his gf i see her driving his truck! But I sit here and wait for a phone call. I'm not unattractive I could have someone why do I do this I need HELP!
2007-02-17 18:59:45 · 25 answers · asked by MLL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're addicted to no win situations and guys. No offense. We've all probably been with people who treat us like crap but still we keep going back. You need to have some more self respect. You already ruined your marriage over this guy and guess what? He's a big old cheater and you're surprised by this? Why? Seriously, ask yourself why wouldn't he cheat on you or lie to you? He did it to his wife. He took vows with her and didn't care. He's not going to change. It has nothing to do with how good looking you are or how great in bed you think you are. A cheater is a cheater. Unless a cheater wants to change, they won't. In most cases, why should they? They get to have their cake and eat it too.
You need to do some growing up and quit hurting people. If you keep it up, you'll end up alone. I promise you that. I cheated on just about every boyfriend I had until about 4 years ago. I changed and decided to stop all that. Guess what? My bf decided to cheat on me. Karma is a bit*h. What goes around comes around and it's coming back to you. You get back what you put out so stop putting out bad karma. Take this as a life lesson and change your ways. Wave bye bye to this loser and focus on you right now. Think about why you cheated and why you need to stop it. Go out and find a real man who has values & morals and doesn't lie straight to your face. This guy has no intention of being with you. He probably never has. Do you think he wants to be with someone who'll probably cheat on him too? He might be a cheater but, he's not totally stupid. He knows that since you cheated with him, you'll be more likely to cheat on him (the same goes for him). Take your knocks like a big girl and move on with your life. Treat others the way you'd like to be treated. If you feel the need to cheat, remember how this dude treated you. Not a great feeling, eh? End it now. Don't call him, don't answer his calls. You can change this self sabotaging cycle if you want to. Unless you enjoy being a doormat, continue seeing him or believing his lies. I promise you, it will kill him if you move on without him. Hurting you boosts his ego and all you're doing is feeding his ego. Don't give him that much. End all communication and move on with your life...without this loser.
2007-02-17 19:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reality that the spouse got here to the workplace asking about this different female, tells me she suspects her husband is as a lot as no solid. i fairly do not trust that a guy who can keep on an affair with yet another female. quite loves his spouse. He basically has too a lot to lose if he leaves his spouse. So he continues to be and cheats on her. considering all those who's conscious of he's dishonest on his spouse is keen to keep his secret, he would not difficulty about continuing the affair. that is highly glaring that you want this female to attraction to close the reality and she has a real to attraction to close so she will opt for if she needs to stay or go away. quite of telling the spouse, why no longer write an nameless letter to this female's husband and tell him each and everything you study her affair including your ex boss and how lengthy the affair has been occurring. Be secure and do not hand write the letter, type it. Wait a month and be conscious what occurs. If the affair maintains, then type an nameless letter on your ex-boss and tell him that anybody knows about his affair with this female and dissimilar people imagine his spouse has a real to attraction to close that her husband has been dishonest on her and tell her what this female's call and handle is. looks this female's husband has a real to attraction to close that you're having sex including his spouse. He can both come sparkling and tell his spouse the reality or someone can deliver his spouse a letter or supply her a decision to inform her of what her husband has been doing behind her again for the previous 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and a nil.5. perhaps you gained't ought to inform the spouse, perhaps your ex-boss will tell her because he's afraid some different person will. or per chance the female's husband will kick his *** at the same time as he unearths out he's been having sex including his spouse for the previous 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and a nil.5. one way or yet another the reality will come out.
2016-12-04 07:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert, because I do the same thing sometimes, but we seem to get comfortable in our misery! We know it, we understand it, and it's weirdly familiar... It's way safer in our heads, than trying something new, like having higher expectations for ourselves. We put up with so much cr@p, because we believe that in the end, they'll come to their senses, and realize that we are a true gift to them, and how could they possibly love anyone else?! When truth be told, it's a pretty horrible equation. I can't take credit for it, but someone said the other day, that her ego was +10 and her self-esteem was -10, which made her out to be a Zero. Wow.
Hit me pretty close to home...
I don't know if this helps or hinders, but hope it's some food for thought anyway. Am wishing you the best!!!
2007-02-17 19:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by OneRedCent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You risked it all for him and feel he owes you something for standing by. He's a player and he's played you and he's probably playing this GF. Everybody hates putting in there time committing to someone and feeling dumped, being dumped. Theirs alot of unhappy people out there and there's always going to be somebody, man or woman that will exploit on others feelings. Chances are his wife's unaware of you or this GF or doesn't care, maybe an open marriage. Move on forget this mistake and don't make the same mistake again, might not be so lucky if theirs another mistake
2007-02-17 19:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity, obsession, stupidity... Why else would you wait for a married man that also has a girlfriend besides yourself. The guy is a REAL LOSER, and you really need to get a grip.
Even if you waited around and you did end up with him, he would ALWAYS have someone on the side, maybe even two or three. It's a lifestyle with him. You are not going to change him.
2007-02-17 19:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by Speedy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mll, Tell this loser to drop dead no more free- bees for him. He is playing you and you fell for it. Don't you have any pride!!! I think you maybe afraid to try and find a nice guy to be with. Kick the piece of S H I T to the curb and get out and enjoy life and have some fun. There's always guys out there you just haven't found the right one yet. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-02-17 19:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are still emotionally attached with him. You want him because you feel that you are loved or feel emotinal insecurity. Go out and meet people, he is obviously over it, and that phone call will not come, unless he is trying to get as much women as he can, and feels that he can go back to you at any time. Dont let him manipulate you, because if he does come back, who knows how many girls he's seen. Just try to move on, i know its painful...but its definiatly possible. If you dont beleive in a committed relationship, you dont beleive in a romantic love. This is Obviously not a healthy relationship since there is Adultry going on. In essence, move on.
2007-02-17 19:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not accepting reality, by waiting for him, u are in denial about his girlfriend, he has already moved on but keeps telling u to wait, he tells u this because he wants to make sure he always has someone just in case it doesn't work out with him and the girlfriend. u do this because u do not want to face the truth, as the truth is painful, so u keep denying it to avoid seeing the truth. u could be waiting quite awhile, get your self worth back and stop believing in this man, he is a player, just be glad your out of it, move on, stop waiting on a relationship that has already ended. he is busy with the new one, and has kicked u to the curb.
2007-02-18 03:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do need help....you need to help this loser back into his truck with his little slutty girlfriend and get your life back.
Get counseling, move out of town, take a long trip, move back with family, visit France....do ANYTHING, but stay away from this idiot that you had the grave misfortune to fall in love with. He's poison, he's toxic, he's a destroyer of lives and relationships.
Lose him...today.
2007-02-17 19:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bcs u r just addicted to the guy. It takes time to change, so don't worry.. this is normal.
What i really like about you is that you recognise what you are doing and you recognise that you are not unattractive.
In time, the guy will wear off. Am soo glad you did not discover this side of him after marrying him!
2007-02-17 19:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by Yahoo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋