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I Love Motorcycles.It is my Passion.I learned to ride when i was 8 yrs.old and I'm still riding to the present at the age of 46.I just got married about a year ago to the love of my life.Prior to the Marriage when we were still dating, she was ok w/ me riding my motorcycles & we both agreed that i can keep my bikes (i have 2 of them & no car but she has a car of her own). Recently she became a witness to a really tragic motorcycle accident that killed the rider.From then on she was having nightmares to the point that she wakes up screaming & crying that i have to calm her down.Here's My Dilemma: she wants me to SELL ALL my motorcycles. I told her that i'm a safe rider & have been riding all of my life & assured her that i'm gonna be OK. But she's really worried & terrified that what she witnessed might happen to me someday.When i was a kid, i was involved in a car accident as a passenger you see so it gave me a phobia of cars. Now i'm torn between her & my Passion.What should I do?....

2007-02-17 18:28:24 · 7 answers · asked by joel750 4 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Although i understand ur wifes point of view.. she also needs to understand that when its your time to go , its your time to go and that could be laying in ur own bed with her next to u, or walking out your front door, etc.. She has to learn to have faith.. she took a leap of faith when she married u.. that same faith, she needs to believe in to get her through this with u.. No one can control death.. things just happen.. doesnt mean go out there and ride like an idiot and not take any precautions, but if ur being safe as possible.. then it can happen in a car, on a bike, it can happen walking down the street.. She married u knowing ur love for motorcycles.. she cant expect u do change now, things happen , u have to just have faith and do ur best to protect urself.. and just reassure her, that your not going to do anything that willingly would take you away from her, thats why u wear all the protective gear, but she cant keep u in a bubble.. u get one life.. and shouldnt have to give up something u love.. just because she suddenly got spooked.. she has to move on and get past the fears of it..

Things happen and even if u live like a hermit, its not going to stop bad things from happening.. thats why u live for the moment because u never know when that moment is going to end..

2007-02-17 18:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0 0

People die in cars all the time as well, as I am sure she knows.
Talk to her and try to explain (again) how important they are to you. Try to get her to ride with you so she can see what a safe driver you are to help calm her fear for your life. If all else fails, I guess I would have to agree with everyone else that though it is wrong you should have to choose one or the other, it is nice to know there is a living, breathing person waiting for you at home! Good Luck!

2007-02-17 18:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2016-12-04 07:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Well explain to her that you're afraid of cars and then if she still doesn't want you riding those bikes then sell them love and family come first other things come second.

2007-02-17 18:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Corrissa Lowe 1 · 0 0

this is a really serious, life altering question. I would seek professional counseling. don't leave the rest of your life up to us yoohoos on yahoo answers.

2007-02-17 18:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by th3_2 3 · 0 0

sell the bikes

2007-02-17 18:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you can talk with your wife, but a motor cycle wont answer you.. the choice is obvious.

2007-02-17 18:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0 0

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