My niece is 13 years old, I am 22, (I have been in a relationship for 6 years) so she feels very comfortable talking to me about everything, but not sex. She lives downstairs from me so I see her daily. Her parents do not talk to her about ANYTHING and she has a "talk on the phone" boyfriend. I want her to be educated about sex and I feel like she needs to know these things. She only knows what they teach in school and doesnt feel comfortable talking to her friends about it. I have told her that I am always here if she needs me, that I love her, and that if she has any questions to ask them, but she doesnt ask! I know her mother will never talk to her about these things and I don't want her to get herself into something she doesn't understand. I know this subject maybe uncomfortable for her, but it does need to be talked about, should I write her a note and tell her to write one back so she doesnt have to ask her questions outloud?
2007-02-17 18:07:42 · 9 answers · asked by &hearts Emmy's Mommy &hearts 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Talk to her as you normally do then maybe ask her what she has been taught at school about sex
Or you could always have a book sitting around and make sure she sees it and ask her if she wants to talk or she could take the book and read it and ask you questions later
I am very close to 2 of my nephews and we used to joke around about sex, they would go red in the face, but they have said they are glad i had talked about it as they treat females different to how they would have............even now they ask me questions of what to do with their girlfriends..........one is 17 then other 20
2007-02-17 23:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by mary L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I'm her parent then I'll be annoyed by your encroachment in so private stuff, indeed and that independently if we could be able/available or not talking about such delicate subject. Even though you'll be doing a good deed, an adult man usually talking of sex with a underage girl could put some doubts in people's opinion, specially if he is living near and there is a friendship between. Be careful!
2007-02-17 22:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most parents think their childs don't know about sex, I don't know if it's only for boys but by the age of 10 I already knew most of the things about sex, even the positions and most of the disease...yet, I still don't know what the hell clamydia is.
Plus, if she doesn't know about sex, you just tell her when she is going to bring a boyfriend home...which is going to be in a year or 2 and she is going ot want to have sex...
2007-02-18 00:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how she feels. Most probably, she knows alot more than you think on the subject. Try to get into the conversation slowly, and talk about different stuff at different times.
2007-02-18 03:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you just have to try to talk to her for all you know she may be dieing to ask but dont know how to ask start out small ask question like
what do you already know about sex
how do you feel when people talk about sex
is there anything you would like to know about sex
2007-02-17 21:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
behave as a friend to her.... try to make her understand slowly... dn't go on quick... there is nothing to rush... did ur parents ever did sex education to u?? if so do the same to ur niece.... clear all her doubts
well, good luck
2007-02-17 21:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by Krish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that not to get pregant,she will ruin her life and i dont want her to do that. tell her that she has to wait till she is ready and when she is older. Tell her to make somthing out of herself.
Tell her sex can lead to causes and effects to her body. Tell her about drugs to ,it also has causes and effects too.Sex and Drugs are not the solutions to her life and problems.
2007-02-18 04:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Queen 106 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur idea is great...she may have many questions but doesn't want to ask them face to face....writing them down would be much better.
2007-02-17 23:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would get her a book on puberty thats what my mom did
2007-02-18 03:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋