WTF?!?!?! Pregnancies!!!?

Question

So after reading many questions tonight about people 13-17 year olds becoming pregnant and not knowing what to do, I am wondering what in the heck happened to our sex ed classes!?!?! Are they not being taught anymore? It's like these teens are asking "How did I get pregnant?" "What do I do?" This is very RIDICULOUS, so if you are a teenager or 13 year old for Godsakes READ very CLOSELY. SEX HURTS!! If you have sex you will die!!!! No more sex!! Sex is only ment for people who love each other and married people and people who are willing to take the responsibilty for a child!!! JEEZ!!! And yes all you smart a*ses I know this isn't a question. Well now I have one, to teachers, where is our sex ed and health classes???? Huh?

Of course they are B.S lies, you can also call what I just typed about sex hurting and all that SARCASM....

Wow, I never realized how many uptight people post on here. Hmm.. well if this question is such a big deal, do not read it, do not spend the time posting back. I assumed MOST people would realize the "Sex Hurts" and "If you have sex, you will die" parts are all sarcasm meaning I did not mean for any of you to tell your kids that. It is interesting that most of you cannot figure out that this is mainly asking WHAT HAPPENED TO SEX EDUCATION in GENERAL. I will be deleting this question soon. But I'm glad some of you understand what this post is really about.

I dunno about all of you, but I remember the uncomfortable movies they showed, the illustrations etc, and those nasty pictures of STDs and abortions, that was enough to teach me to wait. Pictures say a thosand words, and they showed MANY pictures.

I have been to seven different schools. Only a two out of the seven taught sex ed. The only thing one of the schools did was show pictures of stds saying "If you have sex you will get an std" and also saying abstinence is the only protection out there. Now this was in a small town. Over there about 40% of the females in that school were pregnant or had a child at home by the age 16. It was like "your not cool unless you have a baby" kind of trend going on there. Luckily the other school I went to taught us how to us a condom, where to get birthcontrol etc... and there were very few pregnancies there. So some of you are trying totell me sex ed does not get through to people? Where do you think your kids turn to when they are embarrassed to talk to their parents about something?

Answer 1

Yeah I really have to agree with you on this one!!
The always ask things like 'Can I get pregnant if I had sex once?'
I mean I went to public School and they definitely taught us Sex Ed with diagrams and video like you said. But it seems now these kids don't even know the basics!!!
And I definitely understood the sarcasm. Some people just like to try and nit-pic at everything...funny they're probably the ones posting all the questions..lol...

Answer 2

People don't realize how important sex education is in the schools. There's a big deal against it because some believe it will promote sex. No, it won't. These kids NOT knowing will promote sex and curiosity, even moreso since it is something they could very well no absolutely nothing about. At least if these children were taught earlier, in school, they will hopefully learn better than to start having sex at 13, 14, 15 etc.. Sex ed in the schools is particularly important because even though the parent may teach the "birds and the bees" at home, most kids don't take their parents too seriously, usually not until they are at least 20 or so. Having it explained to them outside the home, where they may not be as nervous or embarrased to ask questions, would most likely be beneficial. There comes a point where people have to just get over themselves and realize that health and sex ed in the schools is crucial and has to be taught.
Also, another point is that in this "great" country we have, most parents are both forced to work to survive. Therefore, there is less supervision. These children basically do whatever they want, and with no supervision, the experimentation is what happens-sexually, with drugs, with cigarettes, and with alcohol. There is not much anyone can do about the supervision issue, and that really sucks. They make a big fuss about all of these young kids smoking, drinking, being sexually active, but they want to shoot down any measures people bring up to prevent these occurances. Welcome to the world we live in today, and yea, it sort of stinks big time.

Answer 3

I must say that in principle I do agree with you!

The number and nature of questions asked is truly frighteneing. There are so many young people out there entering into sexual relationships with absolutely no idea (or a very minimal idea) of exactly how their bodies work, and what the risks and consequences of intimate sexual contact can be.

It's like giving them the keys to the car without any drivers ed and hoping they'll pick it up as they go.

They also seem to be more obsessed with "will I get pregnant" rather than "will I catch a disease that will make me sick, impair my future fertility, or even kill me"? No wonder HIV is rife.

And what is equally as scary are some of the answers! Advising people that because they have not had penetrative sex that pregnancy cannot occur, so just relax and enjoy it. What the????

We need a proper, down to earth, sex-ed program the world over, I think. We are up front about addressing our kids on obesity, smoking, and other physical maladies like heart disease, yet when it comes to sex people shy away and thing educating them will make then go and do it. It doesn't! Does showing kids the results of smoking make them smoke? Does showing them the results of over eating and exposing themselves to obesity cause them to eat? No!

There is a huge difference between educating our kids about about how their bodies work, and about the risks, responsibilities and consequences of sex vs pornographic tittilation. Unfortunately, some people can't tell the difference between the two and think sex-ed is bad news, and keeping kids in the dark will prevent them getting curious or experimenting.

We really need to get real about this.

Answer 4

Sometimes with certain situations, even with the sex education that you get (one or two semesters in H.S.) kids get scared. They don't know whats going on, and they are too stressed out to recall something the gym teachers said two years ago during sex ed class. They want to ask real people, not teachers or parents, and they want to stay anonymous. I sure as hell wouldn't go to my guidance counselor during H.S. and ask him/her if something wasn't right. I hated school, and the sex ed. I got was a bunch of crap and I didn't believe half the crap they said b/c they were just too hung up on talking about b.s. rather than what to do in a serious situation, like "where to get the morning after pill after a condom breaks," or any other important things. Plus, a lot of the time things that are talked about in sex ed, aren't things that kids want or need to know for the situations they get into. If something happened with me, I might try to recall sex ed, but I don't see myself thinking "Oh, well Mr. So and SO said that you can't get pregnant if you do this and that, so I"m fine" .. I will want to ask real people and not rely on one persons account. Granted, some of the questions are down right stupid and so obvious. But most of the time they are just kids bullsh**ing , or they really are just clueless... Oh yeah, and I do recall them saying you "can't get pregnant on your period", and I sure as hell did. . . So there is another reason why I would never trust the Sex Ed. Classes. They never did right by Me.

Answer 5

Oh, sorry, I'm not a sex ed teacher, but I just wanted to let you know you sound just like me, all passionate about an issue. Yes, in this day and age, with all the information and prophylactics available ,you have to wonder why and how. Maybe all these young people (kids) have been left to fend for themselves and this is what happens. I was born in the dark ages, and I still remember the day the gym teacher showed us the film and gave us the little book, I think it was put out by the manufacturer of Kotex or Modess, about the female anatomy and the menstrual cycle and what takes place during the menstrual cycle.

Answer 6

Now, you're a bit off, there. The fact is simply:

Pre-marital sex will blow your legs off!

(According to a 'Life in Hell' cartoon...)

And, it's now a point of pride to not have listened:

http://www.amazon.com/CryBaby-Maternity-Sex-Ed-Dropout-Shirt/dp/B000AL4CCQ/sr=1-16/qid=1171804995/ref=sr_1_16/102-4899696-0099337?ie=UTF8&s=apparel

But. If you read the questions from most of the apparent sex ed drop-outs, I don't know that they were going to be helped anyway. They clearly weren't listening in English, in Biology, etc, either.

And:

"The reasons for teen pregnancy may vary from community to community but can include lack of knowledge or skills to avoid sex or use contraception, lack of motivation to avoid early childbearing, relationships between teen girls and older males, sexual abuse, poor performance in school, family breakdown, and poverty."

http://www.teenpregnancy.org/resources/reading/further_reading/youthdev.asp

There seems to be a lot of "My life sucks. Any change would be good. A baby is a big change. So..."

Note how many "How do I tell my parents I'm pregnant?" questions there are on here. I grant that it would be daunting in the best of circumstances, but not to the point where you'd ask Yahoo! Answers. Crummy relationships with the parents also seems to be a big part of it.

And as for the guys involved -- yeesh. "Do not have sex with jerks" is apparently a unique idea. I'm starting to wonder why there aren't homes, preferably fairly unpleasant ones, for unwed teen fathers.

I know you were just ranting, but -- well, so am I. It's a complex issue. I'm fascinated as to why it's relatively common in the States, but less so elsewhere --

"Adolescent childbearing is more common in the United States (22% of women reported having had a child before age 20) than in Great Britain (15%), Canada (11%), France (6%) and Sweden (4%); differences are even greater for births to younger teenagers. A lower proportion of teenage pregnancies are resolved through abortion in the United States than in the other countries; however, because of their high pregnancy rate, U.S. teenagers have the highest abortion rate. The age of sexual debut varies little across countries, yet American teenagers are the most likely to have multiple partners. A greater proportion of U.S. women reported no contraceptive use at either first or recent intercourse (25% and 20%, respectively) than reported nonuse in France (11% and 12%, respectively), Great Britain (21% and 4%, respectively) and Sweden (22% and 7%, respectively)."

http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/journals/3324401.html

I'm Canadian, and we have slutty kids here too, but apparently ones more into condoms -- but I can't quite explain why.

Answer 7

In high school sex ed was taught as part of health class which was combined with drivers ed!!! The school football coach taught this class and when it was time for sex ed he was really uncomfortable. He just asked, "Does any one have any questions? Good. Let's get on with drivers ed." It was a big, modern, public So Cal school. AND we had TONS of teen pregnancies. I think it is a shame it is not taught better. It's a part of life and one that can have horrible consequences if you are naive.

Answer 8

Seriously ! good point. at least in high school i knew how u get pregnant , i remember those sex ed classes really helping. thie only thing i can figure some of these ppl were absent that day. I know my freind tanya was very promiscous and got stds and unwatnedly pregnant and years later ( were in our mid 20s now) she asked why i was so careful and i said it was the sex ed lady that taught about aids and everything and she says " wow i never had that classi think i was absent that day" crazy what missing one day of school can do. thats why i think parents should talk ot thier kids anyway cause what happnes if they miss the day they cover that?

Answer 9

I remember sex ed very well, it was more about the body parts then how babies are made, or how to actually HAVE sex...not to mention not all parents sign the permission slips allowing their children to got o sex ed (or some kids just dont pay attention!)

Answer 10

The problem is that a lot of parents are trying to keep sex ed out of school and don't teach their kids what they need to know. Also that teachers don't realize how soon kids are being sexually active.

It's a crying shame.