My wife has filed for a divorce and I am moving out in two weeks. She has told me about a guy she has met that she really likes. But we have had sex everyday for the last week - even multiple times a day. She has even mentioned visiting me for booty calls after I move out. She has repeatedly told me that the marriage is over and she is not willing to go to counseling or anything else. She also has told me that if she gets serious with the guy she is talking to the sex with me is over. Neither one of us ever cheated on each other in our marriage. I know the sex is there because it is easy to get, but each time she cuddles a little longer afterwards. I never wanted to divorce her, but I accept it now. Are we both being selfish in just wanting sex without any emotional involvement, or is there more there than I am seeing?
2007-02-17 17:43:00 · 13 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cut her off, she's wanting her cake and eat it too.. u need to emotionally and physically cut her off, MAYBE, just MAYBE then, she'll actually realize what shes giving up , but if u keep letting her take advantage of u just because your there, then she'll never stop, and she will walk all over u constantly.. u need to tell her , that ur not her "husband of convience" meaning just using u when its convient for her, if she wants to have sex if she wants to be personal or intimate with u in anyway, emotional or phsyical then she has to be your wife, but if not, then she's on her own and she needs to stop using u as her own personal puppet..
2007-02-17 18:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many, who, where, when, why, how, or ANYTHING else about your wife's sex life BEFORE meeting you, IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!! Let it ALONE. GIVE IT UP. It is NOT "your right" to know. You said that that the answer will not change the way you feel about her, so why persist? What does it matter? She answered you question. YOU CHOOSE not to believe her. You said "it's a matter of trust and confidence for me". NO it isn't. This is a matter of trust and EGO for you. I agree with Richard, you need help and/or councelling for YOUR trust issues. You wife's 1st husband died. She was suddenly robbed of the love of her life and left to be a single parent very unexpectantly. Her life was turned upside down in an instant. AND YOU THINK that what a man has between his legs is SO POWERFUL that a woman living through the worst nightmare of her life, is biologically driven like an animal to it, despite what is going on in her life? You do not believe a HUMAN can live 5 yrs without sex?????? What kind of ego-maniac planet are you from?????? You said She is catholic and she was unable to swear she didn't have sex". Once again she answered you! You CHOOSE NOT to believe her. Maybe she is just so MORTIFIED by your insistance, that she refuses to dignify it any further. You sound more like you are 16 rather than 36. Grow up.
2016-05-24 00:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife probabally does have some emotional feelings for you but she doesnt know how to resolve the issues that caused her to file for divorce. Obviously it wasnt the sex life. Maybe she is having a few second thoughts because multiple times per day seems like alot. I can understand your confusion. It sounds like you have a communication problem that has gotten you to this point of divorce since you are not asking her this question. Maybe this is the time you need to sit her down and deal with the emotions of why you are divorcing and Why she continues to have sex with you. Maybe it is easy to have sex with her but it will hurt you in the long run if you see her get serious with this other guy and you still have feelings. Be careful this is your heart too and its not just her feelings. Good luck
2007-02-17 17:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by oceanqueen1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop giving it to her. Maybe she is trying to get pregnant before she goes. Whatever her motive is let her do with what she has chosen. Even if she comes back begging you. Give the good stuff out to someone who will care for you and appreciate it. She is out of her mind. Move her out right away -why torment yourself by letting her stay around. Maybe she thinks you will still do things for her if she gives it to you. Having sex involves emotions no matter what you may think.
2007-02-17 17:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be a man and just tell her no. If you are not good enough to continue the marriage with then you should not be having sex with one another. Don't allow her to continue using her.
2007-02-17 21:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sally B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it look like she just using you for convenience until she get what
she want with this other person. i would not let her do this to
you. because when she done and she find that other person
she will cut loose so fast it make your head swim. cut her loose
once and for all. you need to be gone and dont look back.
2007-02-17 17:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't you think she's just using you...?? like an object to satisfy her lust? and you allow yourself to be used just like that.
If I were in your place, I wouldn't do it with her since she's already filed for a divorce.. meaning she doesn't want you anymore. don't be fooled by your own desires. leave something for yourself, some respect...
2007-02-17 17:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but she just wants sex-she is moving on but needs to get her thing going. too many constraints when married--u prob didn't have sex too much then so she need to practice--sorry--been there.
2007-02-17 17:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it to her what are you going to loose shes gonr any way so why not tag her *** for free then go out and get some strange stuff you got it made have fun
2007-02-17 21:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Leo M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is using you till some one else shows up.T HEN bye bye to you.
2007-02-17 17:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋