I don't know what I should do. I have no real friends, i feel NO affinity to my family... I just wanna get away. far far away. I live in canada; i was thinking about joining the army... i'm 17 by the way.
i just wanna know what to do
2007-02-17 17:20:47 · 12 answers · asked by in_my2ndlife 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think joining the army is an excellent idea.
2007-02-17 17:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Samara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still finding out who you are. How do you feel about yourself? You could have low self esteem - I did when i was your age too and i remember feeling the same way.
Life does get better. Especially when you start working and find a place where you belong.
I think finding a church is a good idea. You always feel a sense of belonging because it is community orientated. If you find a cool church they often have a lot of fun stuff organised for youth. Some of the bigger AOG churches have rock bands and bon fires and stuff. There are some really cool dudes that go to church you would be surprised.
And it is good to pray to God for guidance during these low times. God loves you so much. He has a plan for your life but if you are like i was when i was 17 - i never gave God a thought hardly. I look back and really wish i did. I ended up being unhappy until about age 22 when i finally started making better choices and then found a great supportive guy. Lucky for me he helped me get my self esteem improved because all the other guys i went out with were just guys that didnt really care.
You know it is also really good to try helping others. Even though you are going through a tough time - try helping the homeless or local soup kitchen. Or go and give someone in hospital flowers. Or buy a meal for someone down and out. There are so many ways we can help others and i tell you this .......... it is a great feeling. It gets your focus off yourself and on to someone else and that is a relief - believe me!
Also try working on your self esteem and self worth yourself. I bet your parents are separated or divorced. Mine were (are). This has a huge impact on kids. Make a list of what you are good at, or any good qualities you have. Yes you do have some!!!! Dont tell me that you dont! Everyone has something they are good at. Start being nice to yourself.
I wish you all the very best. My prayers are with you. You know you can always talk to God - He is there for you always and He hears all our prayers. He doesnt always give us what we want though - if He thinks it is not right for us for some reason. Trust in Him. Ask Him what He has planned for your life. Get in touch with God so that then you can hear from Him and you can find out what He has planned for your life.
Hope all this makes sense. My heart goes out to you because my memories of your age are not far away. But believe me - life gets so much better. We grow and learn and live and laugh. Sure we cry and hurt sometimes too.
Best wishes
xoxoxox
2007-02-18 07:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Nic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i honestly no how u feel. i have no friends, havent had for a long time cus i had a child as a teen. u just have to stay positive and believe me i no its hard but just keep up the faith and keep praying. it might not seem like it helps but it really does. i dont think joining the army would be a good idea cuz all the stuff that goes on in a war is horrible and it might make u worse. alot worse. just keep the faith and keep praying. and if u need a friend im here. all u have to do is email me. its on my profile. dont lose hope. it will get better. good luck and im always here.
2007-02-18 01:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by emilybailey1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join the army if that's what you want. it will be a big help to overcome your depression because you will meet a lot of good people there. you are too young to feel unhappy with your life. if you don't have friends, consider all the people who gave you advice by answering this question as your friends. there are still a lot of people who are concern about you. i'm sure you're a great person and you will be able to find real friends who will be there for you always. always look on the bright side. good luck.
2007-02-18 01:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by cali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Army, better yet Navy. You will go far, far away. Lots of cool places most people will never see. I think from your message you would probably hate it at first. But the self discipline and respect for yourself you will gain would be worth it.
I wish I had done it when my dad advised me and I was failing out of college when I was 18.
Good Luck and Go BIG or stay home.
2007-02-18 01:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bonathon M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Army is not BAD for you. It is not for everyone but it won't kill you even if you don't like it.
But happiness. That comes from inside. I understand the need for human contact and all. But try not to define yourself by others. I am very happy and comfortable when I am alone or with people. Accept your reality until you have the chance to make a new one.
2007-02-18 02:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Crabby Patty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait for another 3 years. In the meantime, don't mess up your academic career and when you complete your education, go join a job of your choice and do as you like. That is lots more liberating.
2007-02-18 01:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To join the U.S. ARMY, you have to be 18 and up, or have aprent permission. Sounds like you won't be getting that. I'm joining after H.S. regardless of my parents.
You should if that will make you happy. You could even make a career out of it if you wanted to.
2007-02-18 01:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by ARMY Babe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not despair my friend.You're so young, you have a life ahead of you.If you join Navy,you'll see the world and you'll meet tons of people. You'll also get an excellent and free education.
Go for it !
2007-02-18 01:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by greβ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going through a stage. Just take your time, ask for help from above, and HE will help you define what your purpose in life is to be. Have faith, and the answers will come.
Best of Luck
2007-02-18 01:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kbear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋