i need help! i am a married woman who has been faithful to her husband, but the problem is, hes away working for long periods sometimes 2-3 months. its not possible for me to go with him, but i miss him and i get so lonely sometimes, another married man is interested in me, we havent had sex, but sometimes i really want that "sexual healing" i feel so guilty and its driving me crazy what am i going to do?
2007-02-17 17:18:35 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't do it....it will ruin your marriage and you will always feel guilty.....buy yourself some toys...good luck
2007-02-17 17:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think your husband is away working on purpose to be away from you? Do you secretly believe he may be unfaithful and this fear may be motivating you to consider breaking your vows? How would you feel if you found out he was cheating on you? Put the shoe on the other foot first, and aim for the higher ground. Imagine how hard it is to be married to someone deployed in Iraq or Afghanistan where they are gone for a year at a time. Marriage is supposed to be the most solemn vow you swear.
Messing with another married man does more than just satisfy you physically in the short term - think about the long term damage you will do - not only to your husband and the married guy's wife but to yourself and the other man. Lies create guilt which creates more lies...
2007-02-24 16:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by foxxzymama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know those feelings are real. I'm not even gonna sit here and tell you, you should be ashamed of yourself. What I will say is... at least you have a conscience. I would say talk to your husband and tell him that you need more of his time. It is kinda selfish to me that he would continue a job that would keep him away from home for so long. Ask your husband what does he do about not having you to fulfill his sexual desires? If you think you feel guilty now and you haven't even had sex with the man. Think about what you will feel like, if you decide to cheat. Then what if you break your vows and he can't please you. Also. You have to remember, you have been faithful to your husband for a reason or two. (1). you love him and you want to be with only him in this life time. (2). you love the way your husband feel in a sexual way.
So when you break those vows for a 10 minute gratification, you will be so guilty, your husband will know that there's something wrong. If the other man does not please you like you think he can and your vows are broken over that, you are not only gonna feel guilty, but dirty too. I'm just saying, please think about what you are doing before you do it.
2007-02-23 14:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your lonely heart is thinking for you. It's very normal the way your thinking, but what you do about it, is another thing. This man who is giving you the attention, he can tell your lonely, and is just playing on it. Does he really care about you being married and all? NO! And don't let him fool you! If he did, even a little, morally he would keep walkin. Have a talk with your hubby like everyone else says, and tell him your true feelings. He probably isn't completely aware of how your feeling. Plus, their are some pretty good toys out there, that could take you to the moon and back! LOL!!
2007-02-17 17:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband and end the emotional affair you're having with other guy. Tell your husband you miss him and that you want to spend more time with him. Men can be completely oblivious at times, he may not even realize that you feel this way. But by bringing it up in a non-combative way, it gives you both a chance to fix the problem. Now, about the other guy. Ask yourself this: Would I be okay if my husband did this? Would I be okay if my marriage ended over this? I don't think enough people ask themselves those questions before they betray (which is what you'd be doing) the person they supposedly love. An how would you feel if this affair broke up HIS family? I say it's not worth the pain you'd cause not only your spouse, but his as well, just to get your rocks off. Buy a vibrator!
2007-02-25 09:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by ameerah m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a faithful wife, then you must fight off the temptation that is there. Your husband is bound to find out what is going on.
Get you some toys and other things that are available to women to take care of their sexual needs when there husband cannot be there to take care of us in this way. How do you know that this other man does not have AIDS. If he is showing an interest in you, and he knows that your husband is away, then how many other women would you say that he has been with?????? He probably already has AIDS and he is ready to shoot it off into you.
You need to stay faithful to your husband. Do you think that your husband is off shooting off into some other woman or women while he is away on his working???/ You need to stay faithful to your man and wait until he gets home to get the GROOVe on and going again. Buy you some toys and other things that are on the market for this and have fun without the scare of contracting some STD that some other flunkie has and could give to you and your husband. Once you contract something from someone, and then have sex with your husband again, you are then exposing him to what you have contracted. If you are as faithful as you say then you can wait on your man. Go to the website
www.bettersex.com and order you some toys and videos to take care of your sexual needs. STAY FAITHFUL and safe and do not play the field with some one you know not what, where, or whom they have been with.
2007-02-24 12:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know we can say this easier than you cuz were not in this situation. But, you should really sit down and think about why your hubby is gone, I'm sure he doesn't want to be but he has to to make lotsa$$$ for you(and kids?)Also there are plenty of other chicks out there that would love a man like your hubby. And none that would like the man that you are thinking about cheating with I mean for real is that really someone you want to hook-up with even just for sex? Especially if he's married fuggetaboutit. If he's that much of a jerk to f-around on his wife then he will probably be that much of a jerk in bed. And if s!@#$ hits the fan then you will be fighting off lots of chicks that feel sorry for your hubby since he was the nice guy in the whole scenerio. I would suggest you get some toys and practice some cool moves and stuff/school yourself on the subject and become a self proclaimed PHD in sexology and give it to who you gave your vows to. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-17 17:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by Chinchila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question!!! Let me give three views...
1 - its your life, will your regret you're decision not to (I am sure there are many other responses that ask if you regret if you do, so I wont go there)? Carpe Diem (Sieze the day) - as long as it doesnt hurt others. We all need emotional and physical connection and its nice to have that feeling when you hubby isnt there.
2- realize that if this does happen its a secret you must keep for the rest of your life - NO SHARING becuase it will bite you sometime later.
3- I am no Dear Abby, so I will not judge you Men are dogs sometimes and will do anything to get some, especially from women that are truly missing that emotional and physical connection as you are. Try meeting him and his wife for dinner, then decide if you want to go thru with this. You will get an apprecitation of their relationship and what impact it might have for him if the secret came out....
Good luck
2007-02-17 17:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by SoCal boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart honey, the temptation isn't worth all the lives that could be destroyed should you follow through.
This is gonna sound gross, but get a sex toy. I know it dosen't take the place of that warm body next to you, or the gentle caress of strong hands, but its safe, No unwanted pregnancies, no ruined families , no diseases...
This Married Friend of yours has probably cheated on his wife before, or he wouldn't even go there.He may be playing on your vulnerability.. be careful..it's not worth the aftermath.
Would it be possible to get together with other women whos husbands are gone for long periods of time????
Maybe focusing on a hobby or just staying busy till he gets home will help the time to pass.
Whatever you do, remember...Where the mind goes the body will follow!
Good luck!
2007-02-23 04:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by iwild 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT! Stop think about this and the consequenses. Maybe the end of your Marriage, 2 Families broken for what feeling lonnely. Instead why not arrange to phone Your husband at a certain time either nightly or two. and have
INTIMATE PHONE LOVEMAKING WITH HIM.
I've been apart for a couple of years due to work issues we do that, Just FLIRTING AND THE INTIMACY AND A BIT OF SEX PLAY. It's not ideal but it works and has another area of intimacy. Get a PHone card or use computer to get intouch it's cheaper.
Good Luck Lynda
2007-02-25 17:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it before you go down the cheating path. I understand that you are lonely and want that"sexual Healing" but you must think about how your cheating will affect your marriage and is it worth it.
Talk to your husband and try and make him understand that you are in need for some intimate contact. Talking may be the best thing for you. Remember that you cheating not only affects you but it can affect how you deal with your husband in the future. Ask yourself is it worth the possible heartache and trouble. Just think about. Good Luck!
2007-02-25 16:12:41 · answer #11 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋