He doesn't like them because he feels that he is "above" them, but I personally think he is acting like a child. One of my closest friends has cancer and he feels the need to make fun of her for it. I'm I crazy or is this a serious problem? What do I do about it?
2007-02-17 16:56:36 · 30 answers · asked by orchid0923 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I work at a battered womens shelter and that IS a form of abuse. However, I'm not saying that you should immedietly pack up your things and leave. I can't see what's going on in your home and it's hard to tell how severe this is. Try talking to him about it. Explain that he's important to you but you still need other people in your life in addition to him. He needs to understand that your life didn't end just because you married him.
I included a link of the power and control wheel. Like I said, isolation is a form of abuse. I recommend that you read the wheel and see if there are any more red flags that jump out at you. If you feel like you need to talk to someone, there's a national domestic violence hotline available 24/7: 1-800-799-SAFE.
2007-02-17 17:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
your Husband has a lot of things wrong with him and why are you still with him when he is keeping you from having friends. he has some emotional problems that needs to be taken care of. and making fun of people with cancer he needs might need a dose of cancer to realize that people do not ask to have cancer they just get it and he should be ashamed of himself for acting like a child. my husband was in perfect health for 47 years and now he has cancer and he could die for the type of CANCER that he has. I hope that your friend is getting all the support form you that you can giver her. make sure that she knows their is help out their and she dose not have to go thought this by he self. If your husband has a computer make his home page one of the acs home pages and he might think different about your friend with CANCER Tell your husband to grow up and act like an adult
2007-02-18 01:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by cindy b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are married to a serious control freak and the potential for you to be abused as time goes by is very high. Be careful and make sure you have an escape plan in place if things get out of hand.
2007-02-18 01:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Boy - this is a definate problem. !!
Tell him its time to grow up,and to wake up and smell the coffee !
Stand your grounds and let him know that you have every right to have friends,that you dont care what he says about it..let him know that he is equal and that no one person is better or above another.
If he doesnt like it,then I would pack my stuff and go stay at a friends house for awhile and dont look back because if he thinks that about your friends,,,what does he actually think about you ??
2007-02-18 01:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to find you again. You need to have your own friends to have a healthy relationship with you husband and more importantly you need it for YOU!!! He is totally controlling you, and you don't need it. I don't know if you can actually sit down and talk to him about this and about his comments of your friends cancer, but if you can't you should probably get out before he gets worse. Do it for YOU!
2007-02-18 01:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by ddp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This IS a serious problem.Choose your friends wisely as some are just aquaintances (maybe friendly but not that close to your interests)But,,that is downright cruel to be so unsimpathetic (& make fun of!!)to a friend & one that needs a friend while going through something so terrible.Id re-think this relationship.His heart is black.
2007-02-18 01:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious problem. Making fun of someone who has cancer, there's a place in hell for him
2007-02-18 01:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your husband is an *** and that you need to stick up for yourself because if he will do that to your friends who is suffering from a terminal illness, what would he do to you? Think about it? I can bet it's his insecurity that you will not pay him any attention over your friends. But who would when you are being an assoff like that? Good luck with this one!
2007-02-18 01:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by from_me_to_you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to grow up and stop acting like a child... some men do this because they don't like to share their time, and some men do this so they can have more control... you need to talk to him and tell him though you love him, you also need to be there for your friends, and if he doesn't like it, its time he got over it.
2007-02-18 00:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a problem to me, he is insecure and jealous of your friends. And with one having cancer you should be there for her to help her get through it.
2007-02-18 01:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by tracystokes3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋