How do you get a man back?

Question

My boyfreind and I just broke up, we have not been getting a long very well at all. But we still loved each other. Then finally it just happened, we just broke up because we are tired of trying. But I think we still have a shot, how do I get him to realise that we may in fact still have a chance.

Answer 1

do you really want to hang onto this relationship? for why? more arguments and heartache? you have not mentioned one good thing about either your ex-boyfriend or the reasons why you think the relationship is worth salvaging, and you said you broke up because "you are tired of trying" so apparently neither of you thought it was worth your continued efforts.

maybe a long time apart will help; maybe, on further reflection, you will decide that it is time, and past time, to let go.

blessings,
cryllie

Answer 2

Let him go. Taking him back or tracking him down will only lead to issues, drama, and an established pattern of behavior. Say to yourself,"Anyone who would quit or who I would quit is not going to stay long enough to be worth the trouble." People who leave do so because it is in their character to leave. Do you really want to have someone in your life that can just stop trying? The other way to look at it is to think that as hard as a relationship is to make last when it is healthy and balanced, how much harder is it when you two can pick at each other to the point one of you leaves.

Let it go. If he comes back then maybe...but don't wait for it. Build a life for yourself that he or someone better can be a part of and with whom it works better and is more satisfying.

Go with the first result. You were tired of trying and as boyfriend/girlfriend it hasn't even gotten hard yet. Is that something you want to pour anymore time and energy into? Don't gamble on chances...work from where you are. It will happen when it is supposed to and no sooner.

Answer 3

I think that every relationship requires a little bit of trying...But it shouldn't have to be "trying" all the time. Does he think you still have a shot? If he is ready to just give up..maybe some space apart will help. I am going through a sort of similar situation. Maybe you can have a talk with him and then work on the things that was giving problems in the relationship..but it takes 2 and if you are the only one willing to give it a shot, its not going to work.

Answer 4

How long have you not been getting along, and it is much better to move on with life and see what life has to offer. As for your ex remain friends and who knows what the future holds for either one of you. As a woman who has been where you are, you can't make a man realize anything by telling him, men need to be shown. Men are more tangible where women are more emotional. Give him his space, you get with some friends go out have a great time and get on with the business of living. Be glad that you don't have to argue with him any more, you said you were not getting along at all. Give it a break, have fun, and get on a bar and dance and your soul mate will come when you least expect it, I know I married my soul mate after I got over the guy that I tried to make love me.

Answer 5

You cant make a guy want to give you another shot, he has to see it for himself.
Be there as his companion, and confidant.
Go out and just have fun for funs sake.

Just chill with no expectations on the future, no expectations at all. Just laugh and joke. thats the best way to get through difficult times. Reminiscing to what brought you two together always helps.

Rekinlding the spark you felt that made you attracted to eachother. When you see that spark, then you just work at it like you use to.

Remmber, it takes two to tango though.

And maybe doing something together, learning something new, dancing, massage class, cooking class. Doing something where you both have to work together could help.

Answer 6

trying dating different people for a moment but kind of still keep in contact with him just as a friend thing you know. have a chance to explore whats out there for you and him.then if nothing every works out for the both of your then give each other one more chance but whatever made your break up the first time don't let it happen again

Answer 7

Love is not a good enough reason to try to maintain a relationship.Once you understand that love isn't a mystical experience or that there isn't "the one" and that relationships are a multidimensional thing - you'll be much happier.

Don't be another divorce statistic. Find someone you get along with AND love.

Answer 8

When things are really good between two people, then they don't have these issues and what issues they do have they are able to work through respectfully because they love each other. I would take this chance to move on. You deserve to be with someone that really loves and cares for you. Someone who values you. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

Sometimes breakup are the best for both of you. It is natural that you still feel for each other. Give it sometime and give it a rest for a year......if you still feel for each other in one year then start afresh. Time away from each other will give you time to think and evaluate your relationship. If you both are really meant for each other......time will tell and you will know.

Good Luck

Answer 10

it should come naturally, if you are putting this much into it, why isn't he? see, that's how it will always be. you just miss the comfort of being with him. forget about trying to win him back and move on. you'll know when you find it, because it will be so easy, you'll wonder what you ever saw in this jerk. good luck.