Okay my friends is getting skinny fast. She has always been slim but not like she is getting now. She never wants to eat at lunch. She always says she ate a big breakfast and she needs to study. I talked to her brother and asked him casually what does she eat for breakfast and he says nothing. She is always doing exercise more than she needs. She freaks out if nothing is prefect. She always overloads herself with work whether it is from work or school. She is about 5'9". I made her get on the scale the other day and it said she weighed 108. She told me she wants to get down to 100 and she swears she will eat normally again. I don't belive her and she told me not to tell anyone esp her parents or she wont be my friend anymore after 10 years. I really dont know what to do. She is a really good friend her mind is just fried at the moment. I think I should just tell and hope she will will forgive me later on? I just don't know how to approach her parents. They think she is perfect?
2007-02-17 16:22:43 · 3 answers · asked by candidroses90 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
U really need to tell your friend's parents! This could kill her, and she'll be mad at first but she'll realize in the long run that she had a good enough friend to keep her alive. How long has she been doing this? And how much do u think she looses each week?
2007-02-17 16:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lime Green Queen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would consider speaking with a counselor at school, chances are she won't suspect you were the person to alert them. Being her friend of 10 years she probably thinks you would go to her parents first. I would start with the school counselor.
My friends did tell my parents, when I was in high school, they didn't believe them. Not saying that is what would happen but it might. Even after I passed out at school!
I ended up with long term damage to my heart. I wish my parents had believed them, but one of the reasons why I strove to be perfect was because they thought I was. I'm in my mid 30's now, but I will take heart medication the rest of my life due to the damage. Your heart is a muscle and when your body doesn't have fat or food/fuel to burn then it will take it from muscle, it doesn't discriminate from which muscle either. I did forgive my friends, but not until after I finally got some help. I agree a live friend is better than a dead friend. But start with the counselor and/or school nurse first.
I doubt that she will stop at 100, she will keep going because in her eyes she won't 'see' the resuts she thinks she will get by losing weight. What she sees in the mirror is different than what everyone else sees.
Good luck!
2007-02-18 00:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg!!! u hav 2 tell!!! girl ppl die 4rm eating disorders!!!!!! it's better 2 tell and not hav ur friend b ur friend anymore but llive, then not tell and watch her die!!! and if she really was ur true friend she will 4give u cuz she will know that u want only the best 4 her!!!! tel her parents but make sure when they talk about it tell them not 2 tell her that u said anything, make them act like they noticed it themselves like hav them go up 2 her and say "honey u hav been getting really skinny r u ok?" or something like that!! eating disorders are terrible ways 2 die, and end up in rehab!!! u really should tell them!! if u don;t instead of losing a friend, she may loose her life!! PLEASE TELL!!!!! b a good friend and make sure she doesn't do anything dumb
2007-02-18 00:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by magictanya2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋