Would you marry a man who is 40 years older than you if you found him attractive?

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*Includes: Emotionally and intellectually

Answer 1

There are no men 40 years older than me.
I am 58.

Answer 2

NO. Why? Because I want to have kids and would not want to be with a man who will be 70+ by the time the kid is 10 years old. You will have a lonely life marrying such an old man because when you are still very young he will become very old and die. And then you will be all alone maybe with young children. It is hard to find a man who wants a woman with kids. Usually women only find sexual predators who want to abuse kids that is why they want to date a woman with kids.
Dont waste your life on an OLD man. I think the oldest man you should be with is 10 years older because 10 years isnt the difference between being young and being in the grave or a nursing home.
Also you may spend your young life caring for an old man whom people will assume is your DAD not your husband. In just a few years he could end up requiring nursing home care or hospitalization. Marrying a MUCH older man means that you will probably have only a few years of happiness and a lifetime of regret and loneliness.

Answer 3

Hell NO, it would be a total disgrace. It would be definitely like marring your own father. Besides what in the world is a man, 40 years older doing with a woman who is 40 years younger. Better take out some good life insurance, but seriously really think about the future not what is right now.

Answer 4

10 or 15 years of an age difference could work if both individuals had enough in common.I even know one couple with a 20 year age difference. But a 40 year difference is.....way too much!!!!
Not only are you in different age brackets, you are in different centuries!!! You may feel an attraction to this person right now, but do you like them enough to be changing diapers for them in the future?. Give that some thought and see how much you are attracted to them under those circumstances.

Answer 5

That woman/girl is looking for a father figure. There are a lot of intellectual, handsome older man but 40 years difference is unthinkable.
Counseling is the best choice.

Answer 6

My neighbor is now divorced and re-married to his new wife at the age of 18. He is 51 years old and she was 16 when they first met.

She is pregnant with his baby expected in the summer this year and talk about a sick couple that is in love...this is one crazy WORLD we live in!!

Now from a more perspective account. She was abandoned by her Mother and put up for adoption. Her parents both died from an accident due to a drunk driver case.
She inherited the estate and moved in with her Aunt.

She met Mr. Michael and a party and now she lives in a beautiful $300,000. dollar home. She drives a Mercdes and her husband was just recently diagnosed with prostate cancer.

He doesn't have long to live, but her choice and his choice has made it where she will not have to suffer being on the streets.

Answer 7

If I found him attractive, then yes. Why not? Love comes in all sizes, shapes, age, etc. If you can't be attracted to your partner then other than money, what is there? If a person is willing to go into this, then they also better go in with eyes wide open, and understand that they will be taking care of this person at the end of their live, which could be shortly. If I loved someone, I wouldn't care. Any time spent together would be a bonus.

Answer 8

My cousin married someone 40 years older and she seemed to get old with him. You might think it doesn't matter but it does when you see yourself down the road. Youth is something so wonderful that to give it to senior and become a senior before your time is truly sad. Believe me my cousin wasted away and now that she has been married to him for 15 years she tells me she made a big mistake, but she will not divorce him and her life just drags along with no meaning. She often says what was i thinking?
What a loss of her youth, She married him when she was 19 years old he was 59 now he is 74 and although he is still doing things most of his things are old people things.
NO i would never do her mistake..

Answer 9

Yes, I would. Age is a factor for some people, but it can be such a great asset in a relationship. I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 48. We've been together for three years now and have a baby together. Being with someone older, for me, is such a better thing than being with someone my age. An older person has been through enough to know what they want in a relationship, who they are, and how to treat the person they are with. And for a person who is so much older to be with someone so much younger, they have to be open to life's experiences.

Answer 10

No...that's way too old for me ! I even recently had a man from work that's exactly 30 years older than me and we were friends and he's got beautiful brown eyes with curly eyelashes which I found attractive. He was so sweet and stared at me as if I were an angel or something. His name is Angel, by the way. He was generous and caring and attractive but too old for me. I would never let myself be involved with someone that much older. I'd start feeling old after a while if I were with someone that old, wouldn't you ?

Answer 11

Even if you were 18 and of legal age, that would make him 58. Thats a huge difference and when you wanted to go out and party he would be close to retirement. Sure, you can love someone of any age, but I think you need to be realistic too. How long is that attraction going to remain strong when you are in your prime and he is in a walker. If you are prepared to be his live-in nurse when he gets old and decrepid, then go for it, but I would think very seriously before you make such a big committment. Although, if he is rich, then you will be set up for life and be young enough to enjoy it when he kicks the bucket.