I am not 100% but my wife is acting different, guilty as of an affair?

Question

there is this guy at her work and she said that when he seen us kisss that he got really angry..now she tells me that it is not cause of it, she comes home feeling guilty and distant, I do really trust her and do not believe she is capable of having an affair and she constantly assures me that nothing ever happened nor anything will ever, but she wants to change her schedule and just get away from him, should I really be worried? or am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

Answer 1

Yeah, I would be worried, not because your wife has cheater, but because, if she wants to change her schedule to get away from him and told you that he got angry when he saw the two of you kiss....something is going on. Maybe he has pushed himself on her....maybe in a moment of weakness your wife succummed to his attentions and now she has realised what a mistake it was and now wants to distance herself from him. I dont know what the real story is, but something is obviously bothering your wife. Only your wife knows what is and has happened. One thing is for sure...she wants to get away from this man, and if it is obvious to you, then there has to be a reason. You need to find out what that reason is. Maybe this man is harrassing your wife, therefore she may need your help. Maybe this guy is blackmailing your wife and she is afraid. People make mistakes and there are men who will prey on women....maybe this man is one of those.

Answer 2

Look only you can tell if she is speaking the truth, can you feel her honesty? I think you shouldn't worry at all. You know once you make a mountain it will be hard not to see and she will forever see that mountain and know you didn't trust her..
. Stay with your molehill and never make it more then what it is... Trust in your heart of hearts

Answer 3

Usually the guilty dog speaks first. You are probably paranoid because you are feeling guilty about something (maybe not an affair but a simple lustful thought could provoke it) you may have done and are just projecting it on to her.

Pray for an answer and then listen for it for the next few days.

Answer 4

She is only having an affair if she also makes corn and fried potatoes to go with dinner. I am not sure about the vacuum thing she may want two guys in order to do that.

Answer 5

OK there could be many different angles to this situation.
I'm not doing very good with my wife as she likes to sit and chat with her sisters and parents after she comes home after work.And I'm all alone ( My options are to be with her and sit with her mother and sisters and just watch them chat or be alone at home)and she comes back after i go to sleep on most of occassions. and things like that .
I mean to say she doesn't bother if I 'm alone or you can say I'm not her first preference. She is not cheating on me. Its like a once in a month sex we have.And Now she is Pregnant. She is often upset with me.I really care for her.Wanted to be with her all the time.Ignored her being unfair to me.I didnt leave her Because I thought that she will repent after that and i'll never feel comfortable rest of my life.

Now I have a girl at work who is married and has got exactly the same situation as me. She is very nice and we are very good friends. We talk and share. She iwas thinking of leaving her husband.And i'm not trying to take advantage of the situation but I really want them to be togather and happy. So I talk to her regularly and this Valentine her husband gave her presents and was very nice with her and she was happy the next day.
I was happy to see her happy but then don't know The thoughts of them being togather and that they would have had sex on vday night started coming in my mind. I ignored them but they kept on coming again and again.

So it could be the same situation with Both of them....OR YOUR WIFE So Time to search your own self ........

And many situations can arrive from here depending upon the nature of the guy or your wife.
And if she is trying to change schedule she is definately trying to avoid him ....Why .......I donno......if he is threatning her she can complain ..if she is not commplaining either she is afraid of him or she has got a soft corner for him.....
Or the guy is possessive and your wife has something for him but she still thinks about you.......@#$%^&*& etc etc.

_______But You are Husband and Wife____And you can always sit and talk to her and clearout everything with her. If you cant do it then it is really the time to start thinking that you are not a good husband .......................!

Answer 6

If I were you, I would confront the dude and inform him to leave my woman alone. Plain and simple.

P.S. Your woman causes this, too. She causes this. How the heck a man could get angry if he saw a married couple kissed? Why get angry? Where did he get this feeling from? Who developed his affection for your wife? See the big picture, dude, your woman is found guilty. I do not want to get into this. But you need to be smarter.

Answer 7

If she doesn't change her time of work then she is full of S@#$ other wise until she actually does that then I don't know, I think if she is actiing guilty then most likly somehting is up
Tell her to change it now, see if she does it, if not better check it out say Lunch or after work or even durung better safe than sorry, whos to say he doesn't have anything

Answer 8

i trusted my husband 10,000% and he still manage to cheat on me.. he was acting weird too, acting distant and always assuring me that he would never cheat on me... but he did for two freaking months.... i forgave him but nothing is the same.. there is no trust at all. and it hurts a lot... after 12 f@(#!* years.... i know that you trust her and i am not saying that you shouldn't but it doesn't hurt to check it out..

Answer 9

I really think she's been loyal to you, and I could almost assure you that this man is harassing her.
Let her change schedules or change jobs. Support her, she really needs you.

Answer 10

Maybe he freaks her out at work. I think she should report him to the HR department to get him reassigned. Why should she have to change because of someone elses problem.