I have a problem meeting people?

Question

I'm a very quite and shy person and its hard for me to talk to and meet people. I won't go out to parties/club a lone. By me being so shy and quite when people assume that i'm mean or stuck up but i just can't open up to so freely i've had this problem all my life.

PLEASE NO SMART COMMENTS/REMARKS!!

Answer 1

Join a group or club that does things you're interested in. There you will meet people you have things in common with. Once you're there and know a few people, ask if anyone wants to go out for coffee, soda, or whatever afterward. You may get some people who want to go, and might make friends.

Answer 2

Well, I think it just might help you open up if you try taking a shot or two of some hard stuff, or drink a few cold ones. I dont mean get wasted either, especially if you dont know your tolerance level for consuming alcohol, because this plan could end up being a disaster. Anyways, if you have any friends at all to where you might be given the opportunity of being invited to an event, when your asked instead of saying no say you'll think about it or you'll check to see if your not busy that day, this way you will leave it open and wont make any commitment and feel pressured to go. Next when the day comes for the event youve been invited to, try a couple hours before, of drinking some alcohol, wine, hard stuff, beer etc..., speaking from experience, this does help to relax things..I dont mean get wasted either. This might help, if you dont like drinking or the taste of hard stuff, think about it, whats the big deal of downing 2 measly shots quickly even if the taste is terrible, how bad could it really be? and if it doesnt work and you end up sick and thow up oh well at least you dont have to worry about your promise to attend if you dont make it, and you can also tell yourself, well that didnt help, and move on to trying another until you find what works for you in your effort to be social. I dont mean this in any offence either, I really am being serious.
Just try it, thats all I'm saying.

Good Luck :)

Answer 3

I am shy very much so but people know im shy its weird its kind of hard for me to make friends but the ones I have I stick close to. I find to express myself through typing because it makes me free that's why im on here. Sometimes I can open a little it is just im scared of what people will think when I talk to them. My friends say im over reacting and they take me up to someone and start a conversation so they help allot.When people really get to know you they will just see how nice you are and not stuck up. So the close friends that you have ask them to help you and make friends. Mine really helped me.
Stick in there bucko.

Answer 4

I am the exact same way. I don't like being around a lot of new people though. I just like to have a few really close friends that I know I can trust.

Answer 5

you have to tackle your fear. Go without friends to a party,.But go to a party where you don't know a sole. THat way if you feel like you;re making a fool of yourself - no one will know, ANd, you'll never have to see any of those people again. Or, go to the grocery store and start talking to strangers- you'll be more confident and get over your fears. TRY IT - you'll see what I mean.

Answer 6

same with me.go to a party with a friend but walk of for a minute or two then say something like hi! or nice shoes or something like that then sooner or later you will make a new friend and you can remember them by"the guy/girl who helped me break my problem!"
and that is a good friend...i hope

Answer 7

I used to me be just like that (I kinda still am) I learned that i can be comfortable around other people

Answer 8

i know what u mean, i am same just like you. ..