can someone help?

Question

I will be married for 2 years in April,and I should be happy...but for some reason I keep thinking of my ex-boyfriend of three years...I don't really want to get into the story right now, but if you are someone I could talk to...plz reply and I will add you to my mesenger. I could really use someone genuine to talk to and someone who is not going to judge me. thanx

Answer 1

you are probably missing a quality that your ex had.

im me if you like.

have a nice day.

Answer 2

It sounds as though you married for lust and not love. Believe me it happens to many people of all ages. If you truly love someone you marry then you won't think of anyone else. I know because I'm one of the lucky ones that found out what true love and a long and happy marriage are. There is no amount of counseling or talking that will make you love someone if you really don't love them. You either do or you don't! If your husband doesn't fill your heart beyond thinking of someone else then you got married to the wrong man for the wrong reasons.

Answer 3

I hear you...I no longer have Yahoo IM, so I can't be an "ear"...but I can assure you I don't "judge" you. Your feelings can't be dismissed, either, no matter what others say. I would suggest, however, that you talk to a professional counselor about them. If you don't deal with your feelings, you run the risk of ruining three lives: yours, your husbands, and your ex-boyfriends. You need more than "ears" and "a shoulder"...you need someone who can tell you what this means and why it is happening to you. Run, don't walk, to a counselor. If you can't afford the cost, try to talk to someone from Family Services, a government department that doesn't depend on high fees from their clients. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Sweetheart, you need to break up this marriage right now! Before you hurt even more your husband, yourself, and others whom care about you! Honey, you need to get to the bottom of your feeling for this guy before you move on to marriage with someone else! Imagine how you will feel five or ten years from now? Add a couple of kids?? Honey find out what is troubling you

Answer 5

Are you that unhappy with your marriage? Thinking about your your ex of three years lately? Think again, why you broke up with your ex? You and your ex must have had some sort of problem, disagreement, right? Now imagine you were not married with your current husband, but with you ex, do you think your problem with your ex would have solved? If you think, the problem would have repeated again, you are not going to be happy with getting back with your ex again!

Answer 6

you need to pray to God and ask Him to give you the strength to get through this. Let no man separate what God has put together. marriage is for life. it's hard, temptation is so easy, but you married your man for a reason. do not fall into something you will not be able to pull yourself out of. Talk to your husband. Hold on, things will get better.

Answer 7

if thinking about your ex is stronger than your marriage-you should not be married to this person.
Do not try to ask your husband to do or act like your ex.you will get hurt.Are you happy at all with your marriage?If so,you must try new things to do with your husband to see if this changes your thoughts.You picked this man to marry for some reason,build on that.Try doing something constructive with your time so you do not have time to think of him.
Tell yourself everytime you think about it,tell yourself there is a reason you are married.Work on that.
Good luck.
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Answer 8

SweetHeart I understand where you are coming from I felt the same why in the begaining of my marriage too But there is hope for how you feel if you would like to talk to me I would love to help you. Sarah

Answer 9

Try me, maybe I could help.

Thinking of an ex-boyfriend in the midst of getting married means only one thing, that you are not truly, madly, deeply in love with your fiance'. Act while there is still time.

Answer 10

It is normal to think about ex'es and compare them to your new spouse. You always want what you don't have. Just try to remember the bad things about your ex and the reason you broke up with him. Think about all the good things about your husband and why you married him.

Answer 11

I really is normal to feel this way we all have and ex we think about. Maybe your spouse is just not loving you strong enough to make you not realize the other one is your ex.