What do you think of this woman?

Question

When I was in kdg I had this teacher named Ms. Squasha. It was the last day of school and all the other kids were giving her gifts and I felt bad I didn't have anything for her. So I attempted to give her my favorite pink crayon. She just said 'what am I going to do with that? Go sit down.' I almost cried. Another time when I some other kid was telling her about a boy punching her and when I asked her what the girl was telling her about she said 'Mind your own beeswax' in a really hateful tone. I was only six on both of these occurances. I really don't think this lady should've been a teacher. I went to catholic kdg and the my teacher (who was a nun) was actually very nice. I can see why she was teacher. I never understood why she was so mean to me. Some thoughts of her mean remarks pop up when ever I succeed at something. It's like she taunting me. Why does this happen?

Answer 1

It's obvious that this lady was a real jerk. But I honestly don't think that if she knew it would have affected you like this yrs. later that she would've been that mean to you. I'm a pretty sensitive person myself, and there have been a lot of harsh adults who've been hurtful to me when I was younger, and I think they really didn't know that I would take it the way that I did. I think certain adults are hard because they themselves, have been hurt or disappointed in their lives, and somehow they wind up doing the same thing to others unknowingly, maybe they want to get kids to toughen up, or maybe they forget how it felt to be a kid.

But the bottom line is your teacher was wrong and mean. But at the end of the day you have to look at your life and see if living in the past is being hurtful or helpful to your present life. It's like when this happened to you, you were a kid and you didn't know any better, you absorbed her words like a sponge because you didn't have a sense of self yet to decide that she was wrong. But now you're older and you can decide. While you gave her power as a child, you must now ask yourself do you still want to continue to give her power over your life now It's up to you to decide, and do you honestly think she's worth this power?

I have found myself living in the past with what others have said or done to me, and one day I realized that this feeling of being a victim, wasn't getting me anywhere. I wallowed in my own self-pity, and I finally got that victims are powerless, and that at the end of my life I did not want to feel sadness that I'd let the past and other people control my entire life. I wanted to be happy at the end of it all and I knew the only way to do that was to let the past go and to have a sense of humor about it all, the good and the bad, because it all happened for a reason.

So forget this teacher, forgive her when you can and move on, and change your perspective, instead of looking at it like this teacher was awful she hurt me, find something good out of this situation, I'm so glad I had this teacher, my experience with her showed me that I was strong, or that I wouldn't let people treat me this way again, or she gave me a model of what I never wanted to become, or whatever you can think of. Remember everything happens for a reason and without the hurts and pains we wouldn't grow as people, but you have to let her go so that you can get on with bigger and better things.

Answer 2

This is why it's so important to ensure that teachers are positive role models and have positive values, because they influence the youth so significantly. Just look at your experience with a bad teacher -- you still remember it.

At an age of 6 I don't think you're really responsible for what your teacher said, unless there's something else going on that you didn't include, which technically would make this biased because you're not including both viewpoints, but I don't think that's the case here.

Try to remember a wise thing one of my favorite teachers told me, "It's not your fault. Everyone is responsible for their own actions." ALWAYS. There are very few exceptions to this, but your case isn't one of those exceptions. Just let it go, let it go. It's all in the past. Let it define you in a positive way. Make that conscious decision and you'll be fine.

Two things to keep in mind that my favorite social studies teacher drilled into my head:

"They're not problems, they're challenges."

"If you have a challenge, deal with it, learn from it, grow stronger for it, and move on..."

Answer 3

the first few years of school are the ones that leave a lasting impression. This woman had o right being a teacher in the first place, but in the lower grades especially. It will probably always be with you. Just remember though God has a way of dealing with these type of people and one day he will take care of her. Be strong!!! and have faith!!!

Answer 4

she sounds like a b****. you shouldnt let her get to you, she seems like a bitter lady. she shouldn't be a teacher if shes impatient with children and rude like that.
i've had experiences where teachers and priests treated me like crap too. its funny b/c no matter how long ago these things happened, when i remember them i get so angry and want to hunt them down and get them fired or at least let them know that they were wrong.
as a child we feel so helpless when someone violates us and i think its frustrating when you're older and realzie how wrong the person was but its too late to take action.
but what i learned is if u allow this person to affect your life now, you are letting her win and you're better than that so you should rid her from your memory.
if you can't do that, use her as motivation...show her that you're a better person that she can ever be even if she will never find out.

Answer 5

first i tought that was nice of you to do that and i can see that you are still hurting from that. A teacher once told me that i would never get good grade but she was so wrong now i get A's and B's. i have on idea why a teacher would be so heartless i guess some people are not meant to become teachers

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Some folks shouldn't be allowed to teach. We are so impressionable when we're kids. We soak up memories and ideas like a dry sponge. I think.. if the memory of her is becoming too much of a problem, you should have a little therapy to help you get over it.

Answer 8

Not trying to be rude to anyone, but that lady sucks! The reason you think about that is because she left a huge scar in your life for hurting your feelings when you were little and that scar may never leave. I have the same issue, but with my step dad!

Answer 9

Because she was a feminist
and Liz it ain't funny because i think you certainly have been abused in childhood.Sickening to read someone laughing at a persons hurt.

Answer 10

This woman had problems and should never have been allowed to teach. I'm sorry she made you so unhappy. You have to get over it though.