Help! My fiance is addicted to video games?

Question

He never pays attention to me. He always wants to play video games instead of spending time with me. No matter what I do to try to get his attention.

Answer 1

My boy-friend is addicted to games too. I try to learn a few things about his games so I can discuss the game with him. Most of the time, I enjoy the "me" time. You guys don't have to spend every waking minute together. Enjoy the freedom this allows you. Go out with your friends, go shopping, go the bar, hang out. At least you know where he will be....at home, playing a game, and not cheating on you.

Answer 2

Girl, do not say 'I do' until you can decide whether or not you can leave with this for the rest of your life. The bad news is guys don't change. They may tell you they will and maybe for awhile the will even show you they will....long run they don't.
I don't want to say kick him to the curb but keep your options open. Get an interest (hobby) that involves you getting excited and out of the house. He will get curious and start to pay a little more attention to you. If this doesn't work, you have a big decision to make.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

He's a boy not a man he wouldn't be thinking of video games unless you were a game that he had interest in. Look get a man to treat you the right way and wouldn't pass you up for toys. You are no longer in kinder garden you are a woman with needs and if he can't supply this to you then what are you doing with him. Kick to the left!
Its like driving a broken car. That's what I would describe your relationship to be you deserve better. Instead of a broken down old rusting piece of crap car why don't you trade it in for a Mercedes or something classical but new and worthy of your time and praise.

Answer 4

First try playing some video games with him. Tell him you want him to teach you then he will communicate with you because you are actively participating in what he loves.
If he serious plays nonstop all the time ask him to take a break at least on specific days of the week to spend quality time with just you. Say like every thur he will not play any games. Or get him to only play during say 6-7pm on week days and only 2-3 hours on weekends. Clearly communicate with him that you are feeling neglected and unloved and you want him to come up with a reasonable compromise with him. Explain that you do not want to boss him around or make him feel like you are bossy. You just want him to be an adult and work out a compromise.

If that STILL doesnt work. Then here is your last resort:
One day get him to have a bunch of GUY friends over to play the video games with him. Then when they are engulfed in the video games come out NAKED or in very revealing underwear (lingerie). And walk around in front of him so he sees you and all his friends. Act like nothing is wrong. And you just want to relax in his/your place.
IF he does not immediately kick his friends out or stop playing games to talk with you and find out why you just revealed yourself to his friends, then he DOES NOT care about you so you should break up.
Or if he will not compromise and continues to play nonstop then break up. You dont want to be married and have a full house of kids running around with a man who wont help because he is sitting in front of his video games.

Answer 5

I know the feeling. My fiance loves to play his gaming systems. I've learned that the best solution to this problem is to play the games with him. We play the games all the time. As a matter of fact, I've gotten so good that I beat him sometimes and he gets mad and turns off the game. So my advice is to "beat him at his own game"!
Good luck

Answer 6

OK now. enough of the guy/video game bashing. unfortunately, i am almost a spitting image of your guy. here is one possible solution. give in; go to the video game store and look around. see if there is a game there that you might be interested in. instead of bashing his hobby, like so many of my contemporaries on this forum; see instead if you too can embrace it. that's what my wife did; and now she love to play as well. she has her own games that she play; and we have a lot, and i do mean a lot, of games we play together. truth be told, shes getting better at video games than i am, even though she never played games before we met. e-mail me if you would like to try my method, and i can easily point you in the right direction as far as games you might like.

Answer 7

Cancel the engagement. You can't marry someone who is still a child and who has so little respect for you that he can't put down his game controller to be involved in adult conversation.

I have a friend who married a man like your fiance, she finally left him several years later after realizing she was married to a selfish child.

Answer 8

I can't really offer you any advice, because I have to the same problem...except it is my husband who is addicted and he is addicted to World War Craft or whatever it is called and I hate it because it feels like no matter what I do...he always has one eye on the damn computer game. So, anyway...I feel your pain!

Answer 9

Tell him that he obviously wishes to marry his PS3 instead and that you're not going to get in the way of his digital love. If he doesn't get the message, then the relationship is doomed. Leave him.

Answer 10

Unplug the machine and make him pay attention to you. If this is what he is going to do now, I suggest you seriously reconsider whether or not you want to marry this guy.