I kind of don't know the rules regarding this.(if there are any rules)
2007-02-17 14:17:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i think its funny that you asked this mike. i guess it reallly depends. I am 34 weeks pregnant. My ex, father of my child, and my first love, left me 2 weeks after we found out i was pregnant and he went back to his ex girlfriend who cheated on him. ha Whatever. I wanted him there through everything, e ery sonigram, every heart rate, everything. This is his first child too. Well i realized how hard this was going to be for me. He was showing no feelings towards and didnt seem like he wanted to be there for me at all. It hurt me a lot. Soooo I guess what im trying to say is..
If you want to be there for your ex GF for the birth of YOUR child, i would ask her first. If you havent been there for her she probably wouldn't want you there throughout the labor. Probably just after the labor she would call you.
If you really dont care to be there, then don't. Showing nothing towards it is going to hurt her more than you already have. This is a different experience for her than it is you. She has been carrying this baby for approx. 40 weeks. This baby is SO alive to her, and not you. She has been waiting for this day what feels like forever to her.
I PERSONALLLY think you should mature up, grow some balls, and ask her to meet up for lunch or dinner or just to talk. Talk about what she wants during labor, whether she wants you to be there for her or not. Whether she wants you to cut the cord or not. Right now it doesnt seem to exciting right this second but i promise you, this is something you will regret if you don't take care of.
Good luck hun, you still have time to make it right. i promise! :-) and congrats. Dont forget this baby is half of you. How crazy & exciting huh!? & just for your information, im not a older person. I am only 19 and going through kinda what your ex is.
2007-02-17 16:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should, ex boyfriend or not. He is the father of the baby. If the ex girlfriend wants him there he should be there. The reason I say that is because there some ex girlfriends that will not want the baby's father to be there at birth. If this is the case he can visit the baby after the baby is born. I really feel the baby father should be there.
2007-02-17 16:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by ovija1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, If you are the kind of father that is wanting to be there to see his child come into the world. It would be nice as long as she wants you there. There are no certain rules for that.
2007-02-17 14:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer a guy, yet your question sounded common to me. a focused buddy of mine stayed along with his female buddy and he or she replaced into pregnant together with her ex-bf's infant too. the lady had a particularly undesirable destroy-up together with her ex besides. yet you already know what..... My buddy utilized for custody of the babygirl that his gf had and that they have got been married particularly much a 12 months now.
2016-10-02 07:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by eylicio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she will allow you to be there, you definitely should be there. So that you can tell your child you were there for their birth, it will mean a lot to them. But if she says no way, then don't fight with her. But be sure to be in your child's life, you will be one of the single most influential people in their life. I hope you are a good person and will try your best to teach your child and be a good example.
2007-02-17 14:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A guy doesn't have to do anything if you ask them but i would say that if the guy wanted to do the right thing he would be there when his baby's born regardless if it is his ex or not!!
2007-02-20 17:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on her feelings. To me yes the father of the child should be there, but you cant just show up and expect to be included. This is something ya'll should work out between ya'll...
2007-02-17 14:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by auntietawnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course. he was there when the baby was conceived, wasnt he? it's his child. i would hope so. i guess u are the new girlfriend? if that were u, what would u want?
but i do understand, if i were u, i wouldnt want him there, but the right thing is for him to be there for his child.
2007-02-17 14:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by braille 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He should want to, after all, it's gonna be his lifelong commitment coming out. I think he might regret not being there.
2007-02-18 02:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he got you pregnant he should have some responsibilities involving your child. Personally i would be there even if there was a horrible break-up, it is his kid.
2007-02-17 14:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋