Think of the good times you had with him and accept the fact that he's gone. If you believe in the afterlife, gone to a better place, where you will meet up with him someday. Make something to commemorate his life here on earth, like a scrapbook, that way you can look back and smile.
2007-02-17 14:19:17
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answered by existingtobe 3
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I'm so sorry your loss. Even though it was three years ago things like that still hurt.
Two years ago my best friend died. It was a total shock, to everyone. I was with him whole day before he died and he seemed fine, the next night I got a phone call from his sister that he was dead. I literally hit the floor and couldn't breath. It wasn't suicide, it was a heart attack.
I think that if you truly love someone it's always going to hurt. I'll be driving down the road and a song will come on and I'll break down in tears. Or I'll have something hard to deal with in my life and I'll cry wishing he was here. I don't think that's ever going to change.
Emotions are fine. As long as your emotional pain isn't interfering with your life (you're not sleeping, not working, not socialising, etc.) then my advice from personal experience is to cry when you need to and remember him.
If it is bad enough that you can't live the way you want to you can get counselling for your grief and maybe they can put you on antidepressants. But I've been down both roads and the first is better.
Hope this helps. Just know he's still with you.
2007-02-17 14:21:54
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answered by flutterby 3
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I understand your pain --my mom died VERY unexpectedly six years ago. I hated when people said "I know how you feel" because I thought it was crap. Everybody has a different relationship with people even if it is the same relation. Initially, nobody would mention her to me for fear of upsetting me but I wanted to talk about her all the time. I thought if people didn't talk about her they were forgetting her. Keep the memories alive since the person is not--they live through us. Get out the pictures and talk about them and remember happy stories and good times. I've had kids since my mom died--they are small but they need to know that I had a mother too but she isn't here. We call her Nana when they look at pictures of her with my dad. Talk, cry, but never forget or feel like you should.
2007-02-17 14:27:17
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answered by AmyMommy 2
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I lost my dad over 30 yrs ago honey and I still miss him so very much. It get easier over time. Try to remember the wonderful times with your grandad. Maybe do something special to remember him. Just know he's at peace and watching over you. It may sound silly to some, but I"m sure you've heard his voice. It's still in your head. Take time, and go slow, don't expect to get over this in just a short time. Also remember nan is going through just as much pain. Be there for her.
2007-02-17 15:09:38
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answered by Melanie A 4
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i am soooo sorry for your loss.its terrible to loose a lovedone.i lost both my parents at the same time that is 7 years coming this november 17th.i know how u are feeling i stiil feel as if it were yesterday .i will tellu straight out its going to suck for a very long time and its understandable but as time passes it will be a while but you learn to live with it .just be with your family and look back on the times you shared together take care of your nan that was her other half that will make you feel better maybe you and her could do somthing he loved to do on that day ,or make his favorite meal and say thanks or even go out and get an ice cream cone maybe his favorite flavor .and just remeber most of all that he loved you very much.hell i am italian i'll be in the kitchen cooking and i can hear my dad in my ear, add more garlic more garlic and i will yell out ok ,ok and my husband will be like talking to your self again so it will take time
2007-02-17 14:27:04
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answered by Anonymous
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I used to sense the type you do. whilst i replaced into youthful (pre-40's) i assumed dying replaced into the worst nightmare ever. Now, besides the undeniable fact that, I see it as a blessing. There are a pair of books that helped me: "experience of Souls," and "way forward for Souls," the two via Michael Newton, Ph.D. those are 2 of the main down-to-earth and reassuring books i've got ever examine. additionally, the books approximately Edgar Cayce are very powerful. i think of i replaced into frightened of dying simply by fact i assumed there wasn't going to be something after this life. Now i understand in a diverse way, no longer in a spiritual sense, yet in a spiritual sense. there's a huge distinction. so which you're on a superb seek - stable good fortune, and benefit from the trip!
2016-10-02 07:55:43
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answered by eylicio 3
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I lost my Grandfather and my BROTHER in the same year its hard it really really is hard, my brother was pretty much my "protector" but it is hard time heals all its been 5 years since both of there deaths going on 6 for my grandpa but it wont always hurt when u look at pictures or hear his voice try to think of all the good memories you had with him and think, would he really want to see u overly upset? and remember that no matter what ur grandpa will always be there for you no matter what he'll always look down on you from heaven to make sure that your doing well think of him as ur guardian angel i know it hurts...its good to cry and vent ur feelings dont bottle them in ,it just makes it 10x worse and if it has u depressed talk to ur parents or maybe a psychologist....feel better
2007-02-17 14:20:10
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answered by Samantha G 2
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well,i can give some advice that than help me and my family. im 15 and i lost my grandma on my birthday 10 years ago. when i think about it and cry i just tell myself everything happends for a reason. god called him home to a better place,he living right now with no pain and is doin better than ever. god told him his time was up and he needed to come home. he is watching over you and keeping you safe,each and everyday. everything is gone be okay. just think of all of the good things that happend,and cry if you do. just remember god works in mysterious ways. good bless you and i hope you feel better
2007-02-17 14:59:48
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answered by BaBy gUrL 2
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I'm really sorry for your loss. Obviously he was greatly loved and a role model to you. Do you think he would want you to be so sad three years later? I think he would want you to take all the good things you learned from him and use them to be the best person you can be. Remember the good times and smile.
2007-02-17 14:26:14
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answered by HomeGrown 3
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im sorry for the loss of your granddad ♥
when somebody dies, you will never get over them.
they will always be inside you, in your heart.
just remeber, your granddad wouldn't want you to be upset, he would want you to get on and live your life to the full.
I no its hard but stay strong. Keep the pictures, look at them whenever you want. But try think of the happy times you had together.
stay strong.
♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
2007-02-19 09:04:10
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answered by Anonymous
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