i want to get pregnant and dream of having a baby!! i am 35 years old but i fear the sleepless nights!!?

Question

i am not very patient with other children . will that change when i become a mother for the 1st time? thanks for answering ladies and gentlemen

Answer 1

If you want the baby then you will adapt. There really are some people so impatient that they can't handle children, but those are the people who don't WANT children. I have a 5 year old and sometimes I am impatient.... it's normal to be impatient to some degreee.... I mean, it shouldn't take 10 minutes for her to get a night gown on! You won't be perfect... nobody is. You can't expect yourself to be a mom like the ones on TV. I'm NOT Donna Reed... kids like cupcakes no matter how badly frosted they are! I'm a working mom and sometimes that is how I keep myself from killing her! j/k

If you really want the baby then you will be fine. Sleepless nights suck but you will live through them. Maybe your mother (or mother-in-law or other family member) would stay with you for a few months to help.

Answer 2

The fear of loosing sleep pases as the time goes. You would be surprised. When we brought our daughter home from the hospital, all I wanted to do at night was watch her sleep. I never really felt tired untill she was about 4 months old. And still yet if she didnt make some sort of noise during the night I was in her room watching her to make sure things were the way they should have been. She is now 11 months and I am long over loosing the sleep. I get a good nights rest maybe once a week, and it seems to be enough. And as for you being a 1st time mother and not knowing if you will have the patients for a baby. You would surprise yourself. There is something about looking at your child and knowing they are a part of you. Things my neices and nephews did that would really get to me. Dont seem to bother me any more now that it is my child doing them. Dont be afraid to take the step.. The only way to know is to try....

Answer 3

Before I had my daughter, I was never the type to like being around kids. In fact, I only like being around my kids to this day. I have no patience whatsoever with my friends' children.

When you have children of your own, it is completely different than being around some random child. A mothers love for her children is hard to explain to someone. My kids are everything to me!! And yes, your child getting on your nerves is perfectly normal too, it doesn't mean your going to love them less.

Also, if you don't have children already, you are probably wondering how you will learn to care for a child, including those sleepless nights, well... from experience..
it ALL comes natural. You would be suprised how you automatically know what to do in certain situations, and if there is ever something your not sure of, you can always ask a friend or relative. If you are not close with anyone, you could call the childs pediatrician.

Hope this helps!! Good Luck!

Answer 4

For some there are no sleepless nights! No the thought of sleepless nights will be something you will look back and laugh on because the things that warrant true worry are things you think would only happen to other parents.....like waking up to a phone call on NEW YEARS day that your son has stolen a truck with a friend and crashed into a car in front of the local bar....at the age of 12!!!

Answer 5

OMG am I right there with you...I have two children 14 and 12 and DH and I want to have one together. I went for a tubal reconnect back in 04, having got pregnant twice I am so concerned about the late nights, the exhaustion running my life and me just being a miserable person. My older children get on my nerves at times and I think ...HOW can I raise a baby when all they need is me??? I am right there with you!
But then you need to stop and think...this is YOUR baby, you have support from your spouse and you will be able to get away from time to time for mental breaks. Being a parent is the hardest job in the world...protecting 24/7, having to be strong 24/7 but it is also the most gratifying ever!! I would not trade being a parent for anything!!!

Answer 6

This is from a male's point of view. You worry about sleepless nights? Whats important is if you have a supportive spouse. It all starts with your decision to understand that the little being you want to bring into this hostile world will be looked and cared for, 24/7. From the women I helped support this creation, I've seen them change in their demeanor radically from anything you imagine to a loving, protective mother. Once you see that face that has been thumping around inside, you won't even realize the change, much less care for the lost sleep. Happiness to you.

Answer 7

Maybe You Should Experience Looking After Children Look after a close relatives child etc so you know what you are getting yourslef in for.
Have u met the right man?
are you strong enough to be a mother?
COULD you support the child ?
Good Luck Xx

Answer 8

I am not the most patient person in the world but, when it comes to my kids, I was never ticked off or mad when they were babies and woke up......Just remember, they have no one else to feed them and change them and love them but us.........

My daughter slept through the night after 6weeks....she went to bed at 10pm and slept until 6am....before that she would sleep 5hrs at a time at night so, its not always bad! If you want a baby really bad and dream of being a Mom, the few months of interrupted sleep should be the least of your worries ;o)

Answer 9

Its different when they are your own children. Im not too patient with other children either, but I have 3 of my own and one on the way. Totally different with them.

Answer 10

Well, If you have a little fear about those sleepless nights ...then do not become pragnant... And yes Patient will be your middle name...No patient No Pragnancy...