I am in a strange situation me and my new husband goes to ice fishing contests but seems so does my X husband with the girl that broke my first marriage up she comes around my family and also talks to my husband I feel I can't trust her and it bothers me I am not jealous just scared she will do a repeat of the first one. Tell me what you think I should do to deal with this situation.
2007-02-17 13:41:45 · 14 answers · asked by wildrose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't worry about her for one second. Be secure in who you are and what you are! The two exes deserve each other. Your present husband is a smart man, with a great wife....he ain't going nowhere! He'll send that little trollop, somewhere else to "fish"!
2007-02-17 13:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there are no children involved then there is no reason for communication between the four of you. If there are children you need to tell her that you understand that she will be around the children, but you are not friends and you don't want her around you and your husband. You also need to tell your husband how her coming around makes you feel. Put your mind at ease and put a stop to it now so there won't be a repeat performance. You don't have to be nasty to one another, but you do need to have an understanding and set up some boundaries.
Pray on it.
2007-02-17 21:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by texaslady73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my husband not to talk to her and he should respect that knowing that that situation has hurt you and that woman has hurt you in the past. She has no right talking to your family. Talk about it with those family members. I can't believe they would even talk to her because in my family she probably would've eaten dirt already for being so bold. With the ice fishing contests don't go or suck it up. You should act really happy. That's the best revenge.
2007-02-17 21:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cristina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not jealous? You're not being honest either:)
Why are you jealous? The only thing you can do is talk to your husband and tell him you feel a little jealous and insecure. Nothing you can do if that's how you feel, so be honest about it;otherwise, it will errupt in inappropriate ways.
2007-02-17 22:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you got a choice to trust the man you with or not. If you trust him dont worry. You need to get over it and move on in your next relationship and dont look back. The chick can only NV you
2007-02-17 22:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by splash27401 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't her that you don't trust. It's you that you don't trust. You are wondering if you picked another loser. That woman can't take any man away from you that has scrupulous standards. Quit playing this game from the defensive; get on the offensive. Ignore her and trust that this time you have a man, not a boy with a low self-esteem.
2007-02-17 21:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well tell your husband that u have a bad taste in your mouth about her and obviously he knows the situation, so tell him its a sensitive thing and u would appreciate it if he just ignore her, an u ignore her to. when she comes by just say hi and walk away, if she lingers tell your husband to say, " if u don't mind we were having a private conversation" and she will walk away. kill her with your kindness but make it short and sweet and tell your hubby to ignore her and to be short with her too.
2007-02-17 21:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing. Trust your husband. Tell your husband what happened with that sk*nk and he should take it from there. If he cares about you and respects you at all, he won't have nothing to do with that woman.
2007-02-17 21:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by imjustsomeguy001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight up in front of your husband and your ex what you really think of her. It will embarass her and she won't come around anymore.
2007-02-17 21:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband tell him what happened and make him realize that what shes doing is scaring you maybe hell like just ignore her well not ignore her but like sstop talking to her often and tell him that your scared to loose him you dont want your heart to be broken more that he just put it together and you want it to stay like that till death seperate yall because yall love eachother just talk to him
2007-02-17 21:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by crazy4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋