I have been in a realtionship for 5 mths and very much in love. To have this realationship I have had to grow up and mature very quickly. Now I feel as though Im losing Im bestfriend. Everything we do just seems so childish. She likes to sit there and pay everyone out but that just doesnt interest me anymore. She also sits there and runs my Bf down when she doesnt even really know him. I guess what Im asking is for advice on what to do. I dont want to lose my friend but I cant keep hearing her running down my bf in front of me. I dont see me having any other choice but to lose her as a friend if Im to be happy in life. She also runs down everyone in my family. I just dont know what to do.
2007-02-17 13:32:37 · 9 answers · asked by Kiara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
im sorry to tell you this, but i dont think your best friend is really your friend. i, for one, am very happy for you in having such a great relationship and it seems to me that your friend is quite jelous, believe it or not. ha ha. i know that totally sounds like a tv show or soap opera, but its true. you should probably tell your friend how you feel. that you dont appreciate it when she talks bad about you family, friends and in this case, your boyfriend. and ofcourse, if she keeps bad mouthing people you love, you will have to tell her that you cant be her friend anymore. remember, true friends respect you and your feelings. good luck!
2007-02-17 13:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by Joanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to have no respect for you or the other people that you care about. She wants you all to herself. Tell her that you love her but she has to stop doing this to you. It's not right. She is doing this out of her own insecurities. Like if running everyone else down is going to make her look better or something. It is very destructive. Remember. There is a thin line between love and hate. If she continues to do this you will find yourself hating her and loving her all at the same time. One way or the other it has to stop. If she won't stop just by you talking to her, you need to get rid of her.
2007-02-17 21:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. She has no right to treat people like that & if she cares about you, she should respect that it bothers you.
Just tell her that you don't want her running down your boyfriend, because you think she should get to know him. Also, she needs to stop being rude to your family.
Tell her that your family has been there for you & can't let her just run them down right in front of you. Angry or not, she needs to know this.
She'll most likely get mad & act like she hasn't done any of this, but you & her both know it. It's all of just whether she wants to admit it.
If you don't tell her that this bothers you, she may not know. However, ANY friend (or any half-smart person at all) should know that talking about the people that you care about in that way is going to hurt you.
I hope everything works out. Good luck!
2007-02-17 22:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really in love with this person? If she loved you back as much as you her, why would she say crap about your bestfriend and family? You need to tell her straight out that you don't appreciate her saying such crude things about the others you love. You've been going out for 5 months, right? You should be able to tell her straight out.
2007-02-17 21:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by concretelake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She runs down your life because she is envious. You have it together and she wants what you have. The only way she can make herself feel better is to belittle your life and BF. My advise patience and tolerance. Perhaps a little distance. Growing old in inevitable, growing up is optional.
2007-02-17 21:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by GoodWillHunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey may God bless you, Think. you're the only one in the situation & you really know how it feels. Even if you get the best answer, when it comes to handling it, you're the best one to do. it's about time you learn for your own without asking for help with every little problem. I'm not being rude but this is real life, say hypothetically when you're feeling sick, do you come & ask what to do? no, hon you try to solve it & seek help by yourself
2007-02-17 21:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Tell her that if she wants to continue to hang around with you, she will not put down anyone (family or BF) anymore. If she starts to do it, walk away and do not acknowledge her until she stops.
2007-02-17 21:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a very nice person. My fiance respects my family, and that means the world to me. You will have to sacrifice the friendship to gain peace.
2007-02-17 21:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by supadiva_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time
2007-02-17 21:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by Nyx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋