because my boyfriend and me were actually talking about it and he was acutually trying to talk me into it and he would not stop so also wat should i do about that
2007-02-17 13:29:04 · 24 answers · asked by meme 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Drop the jerk. A guy that doesn't respect your wishes isn't worth anything.
And you shouldn't have sex until you're married, have health insurance, a house, and a savings account.
2007-02-17 13:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
5
2007-02-17 17:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by speedy >>> 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Legally, it's almost always 18. Most people try not to until they get married. From my point of view, I believe you should have sex when you are absolutely ready, and that it's with a person you wouldn't mind losing your virginity to. You never know, he might not be "the one," or that one true love, but if say you do love and trust him to a certain degree (not that kiddy "let's go out. Oh I love you now," type love, REAL love), then it's okay.
You may not get married, you may not be together forever, so if you're to lose your virginity before you're married, make sure it's a guy you wouldn't regret doing it with even if you wound up not staying together forever in the end. Make sure it's also with a guy who wouldn't regret it either =).
When you reach this point, you could be 14, you could be 18, or you could be 32. It doesn't matter, as long as you know that you're ready and you won't regret it. Well it sort of matters, make sure the guy you pick isn't just going ahead and using you. For example, say you're.. 15 (I obviously don't know you personally) and you have a boyfriend who is 22 (I've seen it happen!), don't fall for it.
I wish you luck with the whole picking your first (who may stay the second, third, etc. =]). As for now, if you don't want to, then be firm about it! Don't act on impulse either. If you do want to, wait until you know 110% that you're ready. =)
Oh and if you do happen to do it early or before you're emotionally and financially ready to support a child, PROTECTION GIRLIEEE!!!! PROTECTION!!! ALWAYS USE PROTECTION!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-17 14:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by cyn1c4l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 15 and had dated my boyfriend for 4 years, now 7 years later we are not together but are still great mates and still laugh about how nice and also how funny it was the first time. There is no right age to say but I would encourage you to do it before marriage, and to have more than one sexual partner. You need to explore and understand yourself- I am not saying sleep around but if are like I was then by the time you have a few more boyfriends you will have more sexual partners.
If you are not reasy then tell your boyfriend that you need time. Make sure you do it because you can trust him and because you want to. If you do all this then it will be sweet and you wont regret it
2007-02-19 22:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by renee.emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T let him or anyone else talk you into doing something like that!!!! Once you lose your virginity, you can NEVER get it back!! You'd likely end up regretting it some day. But to answer your question, there is no set age. If you're mature enough to be able to take care of a baby...emotionally, financially and everything else that goes along with it and not have to rely on another person, such as your parents or the government, etc and are supporting yourself (ex. NOT still living at home with your parents), then any age is fine.
2007-02-17 13:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
11
2007-02-17 14:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In my opinion, you don't have to be any particular age, and you don't have to be married for sex to be right. I think it's wiser to wait until you're in your late teens (about 16) because you're not finished developing yet (physically and emotionally).
What is it that he "wouldn't stop"? If he was doing something physical with you and wouldn't stop when you asked him to, then I'd stop seeing him. That's how date rape gets started.
If he wouldn't stop talking about it.....you and he DO need to talk about it. At least one of you wants to have sex, so both of you need to talk about it.
Think about the following things:
1 - How well do you know each other? I recommend knowing each other very well mentally, emotionally, and as friends before having sex.
2 - Are you planning to protect yourself? Condoms prevent pregnancy and disease. Never have sex without them!
3 - This one sounds almost too simple, but....do BOTH of you truly want to have sex? If you would just be going along with it, and don't have a real wish to do this for yourself, don't do it. Sex is something you should never do just to please somebody else.
You sound like a teen. Go to these websites for some good information:
http://www.positive.org/Home/index.html
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/youth/index.htm
Also, Planned Parenthood and SIECUS are good resources.
2007-02-17 13:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by catrionn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Old enough to be able to handle getting pregnant and supporting a child, to have a stable job and home. You also have to be mature enough emotionally to really appreciate it. If your boyfriend is pressuring you into sex, don't do it just for that! You should have it be with someone you really love, and will be with for the ret of your life, and because YOU want to. If he can't accept that, he's not for you.
2007-02-17 13:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wouldn't stop when you asked him to, he's a jerk and you need to leave him. Check out the "age of legal consent" laws in your state. If you are younger than those, whoever you are having sex with faces serious jail time. Look back at all your morals/beliefs and do what works for you.
2007-02-17 13:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally? 18 in some states, 16 in others, and 14 in Canada.
Ethically? Not until you're married.
Logically? Not until you are have the ability to support a child emotionally and financially.
2007-02-17 13:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by Random G 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋