If you find your true love and he already is in relationship...is it fair to be with him...even thouhg you know is wrong?
THat person tells you th will leave everything behind just for you....and you close your door for him...and then he gets hurt.is it my fault for that?
2007-02-17 13:17:18 · 11 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you find your true love , I hope you found him when he was single. Obviously, in your situation he was in other situations w/ OTHERS at the time you met your true love. Which means he did not feel 4 you the way you thought b/c you thought , he was your true love... ha ha ha ... guess , you didn;t see he was weak 4 God knows.... how many others!!!!! The person who is willing to leave everything behind, must have had an awful lot of faith inthe other , So now hes hurt. Hum...hum... hum... Sounds like you got hurt . apparentley, you say HES hurt. Sounds to me he did just what he wanted. Also sounds like you had to close the door due to his choice. Did you think it was smart getting involved w/ someone who had someone eles or were you not aware of this fact?hum...hum...hum...Would you have really left everything 4 him? You would if he would have not been w/ his other women I suppose. NO , I do not think it is your fault 4 his hurt because after weighing the facts, sounds like you closed the door because he did not show you ...YOU were HIS true love. You can tell someone you love them a dozen times but unless you r willing to show him & he is willing to show you,Then you both really do not have true love. Real love means accepting sacrifices 4 the other. If it was a sacrifice 4 you to leave , which it was, {b/c you think he is your true love} then maybe he was TO YOU! TO HIM< sounds like he did not appreciate your love or maybe his heart was w/ another at the time . Is he FICKLE or what? Are you FICKLE, or what?.. True love is felt by a strong bond & connection between two people. NOT JUST 1 person. Although people r human & they sometimes make mistakes, if it is TRUE LOVE then it shall find its way back to you. I would be very concerned 4 you though due to the fact he did not or was not in the same frame of mind as you were at the time you fell. I guess getting back together would be very hard to do b/c the past fickle performance but if you love each other it will make you stronger as a couple. You cut your looses when you found out there was someone eles I presume or was it b/c u know it was wrong to put your heart out on the table when there was someone eles? Were you misled in his secret of other relationships? hum... hum.... Im sorry if you were. He should have been honest w/ you.Were you honest w/ him?.. Is that door completely closed 4 you? People do not like to get hurt but if it is true love then like I said, it will find its way back to you. Sometimes the best friendships start out this way, If you feel srongly 4 him I hope he feels the same 4 you.Communication is always required to make them work. It takes two people to have a relationship. At best if it finds its way back to you then you will have several choices to make together. Hope 4 your sake it was everything you expected. Good luck HON!!!!
2007-02-17 15:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a CHEATER! If he is willing to USE YOU to CHEAT ON HIS CURRENT...well, is he really going to be faithful to you in the end? Can he keep it platonic until he has made his peace and left the current woman? IF he can do all that before he ever has any physical contact with you then MAYBE you can trust him...but honey I have been there too many times already and I can tell you that you will never be able to trust him...he'll do it to you one day...don't even try to rationalize it or make any excuses for him..."actions speak louder than words!" Oh and no it's not your fault that he is a piece of crap and wants to make you think that you hurt him before...sorry, but that door and your privates are closed until further notice!
2007-02-17 21:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. He is in a relationship , the door to anything else is closed. You want no promises, you want to see action. If he leaves his current relationship, he will still need time to pull himself together enough to be worthy of your love. So keep the door to him closed until he has ended and healed from his past relationship
2007-02-17 21:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all....finding a true love in another relationship isn't to smart! secondly it's definitly wrong.......and third people say things they really don't tend on doing to get you into bed! Don't fall for pitty! It's not your fault for doing a smart decision!
2007-02-17 21:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Kickin' Back 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is married or in a committed relationship, leave him alone. How do you know he's your true love? Unless you've dated him for a while, it's lust. To truly love someone, you need to know them very well. You have to know their good side and their bad side, all their flaws and faults. No one is perfect.
2007-02-17 21:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's wrong, don't do it.
Do the right thing....because it's the right thing to do.
Everything else will fall into place.
It really is as simple as that.
2007-02-17 21:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no "fault" in doing RIGHT! You were the responsible party!
2007-02-17 21:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not fair to be with him. He leaves her, he'll leave you someday. If you know it's wrong, why do it?
2007-02-17 21:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by VW 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its meant... he will get out of the relationship he is in before you two hook up. have paitence, it will give you time to see whats up, whats not.
2007-02-17 21:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by annilori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?
2007-02-17 21:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by Evil Atheist Conspirator 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋