A previous question reminded me of this story:
My wife and I were out of town at a wedding. My wife is a pretty conservative gal who still is very gregarious. Actually, both of us are the life of the party.
So we're having this great time at this wedding hanging it out with some new found friends when this attractive woman smooched me on the cheek. My wife thought it was funny and said, "Hey, Gina! Stop trying to take away my husband!" To which Gina said, "Well why don't we just swap spouses tonight and make it a real party?"
We all laughed, and the party broke up without anything else being said about it.
The next day, driving home from the wedding to pick up our kids, my wife was looking out the window and said, "You know, I just don't have any self control." When I asked why, she said, "Oh, nothing."
So, ladies, please read the tea leaves and tell me what she was meaning by that.
2007-02-17 13:10:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She wanted to.
2007-02-17 13:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to her and ask her what did happen after the party. I feel she got talked into something maybe she didn't intend or try to do. I am guessing by that reply something did happen that night just didn't include you. I would keep the communication open and talk to either forgive and move on mistakes happen which isn't right but if love is still in you hearts work it out. But if you want to look at it a different angle is someone loves you they would never do this to the other person.
2007-02-17 21:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by wildrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what she meant by saying she doesn't have any self-control. Her response was "Nothing," which in woman-speak means something, but you didn't drag it out of her, so that's an argument from some future date.
Now for you to tie it back to the incident with the hottie makes me wonder if you are hoping there is a connection so you can pursue that subject further.
Ya know, I wouldn't even go there--just keep it in that category of "Ya know what happened to us?"--one of those memories you laugh about years from now.
Your wife sounds like one of the good ones--she didn't smack you for being so-o-o irresistible but just sweetly put that broad in her place.
2007-02-17 21:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she feels bad about what Gina said about wife swapping. To be honest the only way to know is to ask.
2007-02-17 21:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sergei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she did not think it was funny at all, so she could not control it and HAD TO say something, but tried to make it sound like a joke.
Or yeah, maybe she had more coffee than she thinks was good for her because she is a caffeine addict. Could be anything. Just ask her what she meant, but do yourself the favor and don't imply that you think it had anything to do with that comment.
2007-02-17 21:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by doola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was very childish and cruel of her to say something that vague, and then say "oh nothing" when you ask her what she meant.
I think you need to ask her what she meant again. If she skirts the issue, you need to tell her that if she meant nothing...than she should have said nothing. Tell her when she says things like that and doesn't explain what she means, since you love her and don't want to lose her, it makes you feel like she's hiding something from you, and your anxiety over it makes you think the worst.
Bottom line is...I definitely think she has something she wants to get off her chest. Do yourselves a favor and help her out with that.
2007-02-17 21:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as we know she just felt bad about eating that chocolate bar? But if you want the truth, ask her. It may or may not open up a can of worms but wouldn't you rather have a marriage with open communication and really knowing each other rather than not talking about something that could turn out to be be very important to even one of you?
2007-02-17 21:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if she was missing at any time after that party that night,you can be concerned..if not, we all wonder about what we would have done in situations..sometimes out loud.
2007-02-17 21:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by loveyouoshinystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she thought she was being ignored or maybe she is just pondering or what she said was really bothering her. tell her she does, in fact, have plenty of self control, you love her to death, and make her feel wanted, make her laugh a little while you're at it. problem solved!
2007-02-17 21:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by Pumpkin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tonya-she wanted to!
And now she feels guilty about wanting.Even though she may not have done anything.
2007-02-17 22:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by carin1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋