Black people and hair?

Question

Why when a Black person sees another Black person with long hair they ask them if it's theirs? Do you really think that they're going to say no. This is not Africa and even if it was there is a region in Africa that they have long hair. This is not slavery times where we didn't have good hair products to keep our hair healthy.
Is asking them if that's their hair benifiting you in any way? Iv'e never heard a white, hispanic or asian ask their own race or even Black people if that's their hair. That's because they're used to having long hair. Why can't Black people accept that their own people can have nice hair. Why do you have to be mixed? Can't you be full black and have long hair? I think that they should stop worrying about Blacks with long hair and start worrying about taking care of their own. It's very rude to ask that and very ignorant. I don't know why Black WOMEN have such a fascination about hair in that way. It's awfully imbarrassing

Someone please answer!

Answer 1

Thank you!

I mean, as far back as I can remember, I've been asked 1) is my hair a weave, and if I answer no, 2) what am I mixed with.

People are even more rude when asking me because for some reason, since I'm more brown-skinned, it's simply ludicrous for me to have long hair. My best friend is all black, but she's what people call a "redbone", so in some people's mind, that's the reason her hair is long. Which, obviously, makes no sense, whatsoever. I even went to a hair stylist who flat-out refused to cut on my hair because she said I wanted too much hair cut. (It was only 2 in.)

It's funny because in high school, when I stopped relaxing my hair, and decided to go natural, I did in fact wear a weave to help grow the relaxer out, and my heritage was never, ever questioned. Now that I'm natural, my hair grows even longer and healthier, and the natural curls are much more prominent, and people dismiss my hair as being mine. It used to irk me a little, but again, the majority of black and non-black people think like this, so I don't let it get to me.

The sad thing is most black people think this way, and in particular, black females. Why though? No clue.

Answer 2

My answer may not make much sense:

I agree with one of those statements. I never see a white, asian, or latina get asked if they had a weave. But face the facts. Many blacks have a a self hate comple(not all). Many unknowingly see Black features as a bad thing. Also I guess a lot of us are used to seeing other Black girls with short hair and only seeing mixed girls with "good" hair that we think that a Black girl can't have nice hair. But then, I kinda noticed that a lot of Black people really don't know how to take care of their hair. We do the most damging stuff to our hair(trust me i know). All the chemicals. heat, pore clogging products, it is no wonder why I rarely see Black women with long hair(i have seen it before) So i guess when other black women see, they just have to ask. Also to tell the truth, a weave is a common thing too(not to say that other race don't wear them)

I was just recently thinking about the lenth thing too. I just recently said something about a Black girl having nice and long hair from on a count of her mother being part Mexican. That really pissed me off. What? she couldn't have long hair without being mixed?


I mean, i guess it is a complicated situation. But either way, it is still rude to ask.

Answer 3

Well im a black male and my family is creole. People use to all ways ask if my sisters if they hair was real but i never known them to get mad because someone asked them that question. I think black people are really use to seeing this many people with long hair. Because if you start looking around black people grade of hair is getting better and better. And thats good i think. But people allways ask me if im half white or hispanic i just tell the i have a African mom and dad. I mean thats what the U.S said.

Answer 4

I completely agree with you. Its quite the shame the effects of history and brainwashing have had on our people. It was thought that the longer and straighter your hair, and the fairer your skin, the more socially acceptable (hireable, marriable, etc.) a girl was. Hence, the invention of the straightening comb (applying scorching heat to your scalp and hair), gel, weave, wigs, burning and damaging perms, the horror goes on and on. Also, a girl child had to stay out of the sun to prevent "darkening up", they had to marry up (the lighter, the better). Those scars run deep and have been hard to escape. Although it is less prevalent today, I still have to battle with those kinds of things. I went natural (never wanted the perm to begin with) and I am in love with my hair and I always have been. But I sensed the resistance from the older ladies in my family, because they wanted me to look "presentable". Guess what? I had to call it like I saw it and they immediately apologized to me. It is up to us to break down those walls that bind into a prison of a box. God made you perfectly, whether your hair was straight or curly and you have no choice but to accept and love yourself regardless of what others think. If they've got you twisted, make no haste in correcting them!

Answer 5

Go and see the Black people of Somalia, Ethiopia, Eritrea and Djibouti, the HORN OF AFRICA. They have a better hair than anyone else. Their hair is real, long and silky or long curls naturally.

Answer 6

Just Black (Y) You could class under brunette But i think its Just Black Xx Elii

Answer 7

True. I hate it when other females come up to me and ask if its my real hair and then want to touch it. Now I wear a wig, its more acceptable for them to hear "Nah, its a wig" ... lol! But.. then again I do have mixed genes.. I don't consider that much of a factor though, my best friend has longer hair than I do and she's not mixed.

Answer 8

I think you hedged around the answer you already know. It is a form of racism, blacks being racist to blacks. My skin is darker/lighter than yours, so I'm better. You have White blood, so I'm better than you. Your Grandfather owned the slaves, so I'm better than you. You like classical music so you are an Uncle Tom, etc., etc., and it is as disgusting and far more restrictive to the "Black Culture" whatever that is, than any prejudice THOUGHT by White, Asians or Latinos towards Blacks.

Wise up folks.

Answer 9

Alright I will answer: maybe us black females would have long hair healthy hair if we took care of it better; natural is what I'm hinting at; I think too many of us don't know how to properly take care of our hair

A wise man once said that ancient African women had long thick hair

Answer 10

What do you mean "this is not africa?" Africans have hair products too. I should know, I'm Nigerian. I'd expect someone of another race to say that, but I'm surprised at you.