My wife and I have become really good friends with this couple. We go out to eat once a month and just have great chemistry together.
So what's the problem?
After five years of friendship, the husband hinted over drinks the other night that he and his wife indulged in wife swapping from time to time. This is after we agreed to go to their beach house in Florida.
My wife and his wife cooked up this trip. Now I don't know if there's an ulterior motive on their part, or if my wife is in on the planning. What do you think? What's a good way to go about telling my wife about this without ruining our Florida trip?
2007-02-17 12:44:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She alreary knows!
2007-02-17 13:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by John M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's much more at stake here than a trip to Florida. Good grief, sit down with your wife NOW and discuss what your male friend revealed to you. Can you imagine what kind of a crisis could develop if you wait and get into an extremely uncomfortable confrontation with this other couple? If your wife is in on it, better to find out sooner than later.
This is a no brainer, big guy. Log off the computer and get some control over this situation.
2007-02-17 12:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with your wife and find out what gives. Very innocently ask your wife did she have a conversation about spouse swapping with your friend's wife? If she did then ask how she feels about it? Before you get into all this with your wife you better figure out how you feels about it all.
Spouse swapping is more common than most people may realize. I had married friends that did all the time. It is far more honest than straight out cheating. At least there is agreement between the couple and nothing is being done behind the back of the other.
Open communication is always the best policy. I would not want my wife talking about this without keeping me in the loop. In fact, it would be hell to pay if she withheld this information from me. I would consider that a major breach of trust in our relationship. I would tell my wife If you want to have sex with this guy you better tell me first before I find out on my own. If you tell me upfront we may have a chance of working it out, if I find out on my own end of our love song. I am guy; if his wife was hot enough I just might go for it but not likely. I don’t think in terms of sleeping with another man’s wife or girlfriend because I like oral sex too much and don’t want any surprises if you know what I mean.
2007-02-17 13:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her if she has noticed anything like that from her gf. Then tell her that the male friend had brought it up. Just be open and honest. If u dont feel comfortable going and think they may bring it up in Florida, then simply dont go. U r not under contract to do it, i dont see a problem. Talk to ur wife, see how she feels about what he said, and then the two of u discuss what if anything would u do, if the subject came up in Fla if u went.
Its gotta be all u guys on this one. We cant tell u what u should or shouldnt do in this case. U guys know what ur open to or not.
Good luck.
2007-02-17 12:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters, it's pretty unlikely that this other couple (who are obviously swingers) are planning a trip to Florida with the two of you and NOT hoping something more might happen. So you have to ask yourself a very simple question:
What's worse? Telling your wife what you found out and potentially ruining the surprise she thought she was planning for you with this other couple? Or not telling her, her finding out the hard way that they are swingers, that their plan all along was group sex with the two of you, and that you knew about it the entire time and didn't say anything????
2007-02-17 12:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would not go with this at all.... Tell them you are not confortable with it and do something else with just you and your wife alone that weekend. Ask your wife if she is in on the planning here. It is not a good idea to do wife swapping at all. Steer clear of this.
2007-02-17 13:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife! Tell her plain and simple what you know. Ask her if she knew and what she wants to do. The Florida trip is the least of your problems.
2007-02-17 13:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awesome dude. Get ready for an all out 0rgy! I don't see any problem here at all if dudes wife is into it. Now you just gotta convince your wife and it will be all good.
Ask her about her fantasies and go from there. Hopefully she won't blow her top.
If she is like most women on this forum though, she'll be all upset because she is selfish and does not want to share her husband even if she gets to devour a strange dude's member with her lady parts in the process.
2007-02-17 13:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her straight that the husband told you about their lifestyle and ask your wife about it. If she doesnt mind then I guess she is up for it, but if you are not you can always put a stop to it. It's your marriage that you are after, not your friends. If I was on your shoes that would be the most responsible thing to do for me.
2007-02-17 12:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you so worried about??? Don't say anything now and go on the trip. If the situation arises during the trip, put your foot down and say no. It's easy and simple.
2007-02-17 13:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key! Ask all the questions and tell your wife. You wouldn't want any suprises that would really mess things up! (vacation-wise, or marriage-wise)
2007-02-17 12:58:16 · answer #11 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋