Hi All;) .. Is loving someone a decision or an honest feeling?;D?

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Explain your answer...
By someone, I mean... anyone.. at all...

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Answer 1

My grandfather told me be careful who you sleep with because you can't control who you fall in love with.

Answer 2

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 3

I'd say it's honest feeling
Love enmerges from an honest feelings, pure and innocent.,and it is coming from within
Reality shrouds over one's mind leading him to dig further about his beloved. Now this action complies with the external compositions either or not will magnify the feelings. In other words, one is trying to decide over the good and evil that makes up his beloved. Deciding whether the beloved is good or not has got nothing to do with loving the person. One can decide his beloved is not worthy but will persist on loving his beloved anyway. We simply can't decide we are going to love someone. When we love someone, no decision is going to change the way we feel.

Answer 4

I think it is a little of both except the decision is not conscious.
We begin to predetermine just what we will seek in the love arena during our formative years (1>7).
When we meet someone who fits with our early perceptions of love, we are likely to feel an emotion, but the memories we rely on are too distant to remember.
Those who reject the decision msking relationship likewise do so through indoctrination.

Answer 5

Love is the basic truth in this world. It starts the moment a person is born. It is an everlasting bond imbibed in beings... even the plants (science has proved it). It is neither a feeling nor a decision but a state of mind. If well channelized, it leads to bliss.

Answer 6

Loving someone is definitely a decision. It's best to not to base love on just our emotional feelings. Feelings can come and go. If love is only an emotion then the world is in trouble. Love is definitely a decision. One that requires discipline and determination just like one going to their job on a dreary Monday morning.

Answer 7

I dont tend think love is really much of a choice, to me its more of like a natural urge for companionship. And if you dont love somebody, youre just going to love someone/something else.

ie, I personlly cannot really "fall out of love". This isnt very possible for me. When I love someone, I cant ever forget them entirely. Even if Im in a totally different relationship Im always going to miss every other person that Ive liked before. So....

Its sort of like a vicious yet beautiful cycle of life in my opinion.

Sometimes I kind of hate the idea that it isnt voluntary. But then again, if love was voluntary, I doubt there would be any love out there.

Answer 8

In my case, it is a decision whether or not to give my emotions permission to attach. I try very hard to make that decision logically, because once given free rein, my emotions are rarely honest. I ‘see’ what my heart wants me to see.

I think that’s unfortunate, but nonetheless what has happened in the past.

Answer 9

sometimes when u r in love of someone and u know that he does not deserve Ur love u decides to busy Ur self in thinking of some one else to indulge Ur self away from Ur first lover but in some cases this decision developes and convert into deep love .

Answer 10

" Is loving someone a decision or an honest feeling?;D? "

Dishonesty and deception are innate defensive reactions.


Which came first, the chicken or the chicken egg, i.e. is love or self consciousness first. Two reasons we can not answer that question 1) there is more than one kind love or total and complete positivity, and 2) our essential humanity, that which is a norm for all humans, exists before the individual consciousness, that which is needed for conscious and fully developed cognition.

http://chiron.valdosta.edu/whuitt/col/cogsys/piaget.html

Stages of Cognitive Development. Piaget identified four stages in cognitive development:

Sensorimotor stage (Infancy). In this period (which has 6 stages), intelligence is demonstrated through motor activity without the use of symbols. Knowledge of the world is limited (but developing) because its based on physical interactions / experiences. Children acquire object permanence at about 7 months of age (memory). Physical development (mobility) allows the child to begin developing new intellectual abilities. Some symbollic (language) abilities are developed at the end of this stage.

Pre-operational stage (Toddler and Early Childhood). In this period (which has two substages), intelligence is demonstrated through the use of symbols, language use matures, and memory and imagination are developed, but thinking is done in a nonlogical, nonreversable manner. Egocentric thinking predominates

Concrete operational stage (Elementary and early adolescence). In this stage (characterized by 7 types of conservation: number, length, liquid, mass, weight, area, volume), intelligence is demonstarted through logical and systematic manipulation of symbols related to concrete objects. Operational thinking develops (mental actions that are reversible). Egocentric thought diminishes.

Formal operational stage (Adolescence and adulthood). In this stage, intelligence is demonstrated through the logical use of symbols related to abstract concepts. Early in the period there is a return to egocentric thought. Only 35% of high school graduates in industrialized countries obtain formal operations; many people do not think formally during adulthood.

http://chiron.valdosta.edu/whuitt/col/cogsys/piaget.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

Stage One Oral-Sensory: from birth to one, trust vs. mistrust, feeding;

Stage Two Muscular-Anal: 1-3 years, autonomy vs.doubt, toilet training;

Stage Three Locomotor: 3-6 years, initiative vs.inadequacy, independence;

Stage Four Latency: 6-12 years, industry vs.inferiority, school;

Stage Five Adolescence: 12-18 years, identity vs.confusion, peer relationships;

Stage Six Young Adulthood: 18-40 years, intimacy vs.isolation, love relationships;

Stage Seven Middle Adulthood: 40-65 years, generativity vs.stagnation, parenting;

Stage Eight Maturity: 65 years until death, integrity vs.despair, acceptance of one's life.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

Answer 11

Honest feeling.