Is it normal/acceptable for a married man to look at other women and/or fantasize about them?

Answer 1

hello again normal yes i guess not right i say but normal, in most men but you will not have to accept it after you have a talk,being honest with him telling him how you feel truthfully,not out of jealousy but honesty ,which is great for a marriage ,he is suppose to be so madly in love that another women should be the last thing on his mind, but now it also takes you to be honest with him are you the same women he fell in love with? has anything you are doing or acting changed? granted he is suppose to take the good with different but got to remember he is a man ,sometimes they do not think with the right head!!!! but fantasizing about another woman unless you two are roll playing is never acceptable . been married 17 yrs. sex therapist studies show roll playing helps in bed room also if he is satisfied at home he will not even want 2 think of no one but you twenty four seven hope this is of help do not forget to tell him how this embarrasses you in public playboy is something you two handle .

Answer 2

Of course it is normal. Any woman who thinks she is the only woman her husband will ever look at, think about or fantasize about is a childish fool. All men fantasize especially about what they can never possess. Some prudes think it is cheating but I disagree. You can't change a man. Society has brainwashed men & women to believe you have to be beautiful & skinny to be worthy. As long as that is the case men will continue to look & fantasize about those types of women.

A man can be married to a sexy, beautiful woman & still fantasize about others. Look at Brad Pitt, Eric Benet they were married to beauties like Jennifer Anniston & Halle Berry. They still ended up cheating, subsequently getting divorced. Famous people are no different than any others.

I don't know if in general it is acceptable since looking usually results in touching or cheating (on the extreme end). Most women are very insecure & jealous even of fantasy women like porn stars, playmates, etc. Too bad women should indulge fantasizing & even incorporate some of your own to keep things interesting. So what if he fantasizes, he comes home to you right??

I guess it is fair to say it's normal & part of the human condition for both males & females alike. Beauty is something that draws us.

Fantasy is also something that two can share to keep the man from straying. Just a thought!

Answer 3

When a set of 40's go by that are flopping all over the place in a sheer top -- you have some bimbo that just showed them for free and hell I'm going to look (I like them much smaller for real) and so is everyone else in the store.

Not a damb thing to do about it except comment what a set.

Wanting to look is a lot differnt then wanting them. That's were the word covet (from the 10 commandmands) comes into play and that's when it becomes wrong.


Kind of like this -- if you can watch a porno together and rember that its all an act have fun. When you actually want your partner to behave like the actors/actresses in the movies you done better turn them off till you get your head screwed on tight.

Answer 4

it is normal and acceptable to look at other women but actually fantasizing about them is not ok. the only time i feel that any man should be fantasizing about a women is if it is his wife or if it was not a real person they saw walking in public or something. for example its ok if your wife is not around and you need to just have a release then it is ok to fantasize about the women in the magazine you got in front of you or the barely legal women on the video you have.

Answer 5

Yes - it's perfectly normal. And don't, for a minute, think that women don't look or think about other men. My husband and I have an agreement, we can both look at the menu as much as we want, but we've both agreed that dinner will ALWAYS be served at home.

It basically comes down to trust. I trust my husband. I'm not a super model by any stretch of the imagination, but I know that my husband loves me. I trust him and I know that he trusts me. Our relationship has lasted a long time, in a big part, because we trust each other. If just looking at another woman is enough to bother or upset you, or make you feel that you're being treated poorly, there may be deeper issues that you should address.

Answer 6

It's normal BUT for me it isn't acceptable because a husband should be satisfied with the woman he married and he should ONLY "fantasize" about HER and not some other woman. If such "fantasizing" develops...well soon enough he'd be cheating on his wife and that's something that no one wants to happen.

Answer 7

Yes, that is completely normal. In fact, it would be great if it was something that he could share with his wife too. However, make sure that there is a drawn line there. Guys never really lose their instinct to look at other women. If that was the case, then the XXX rated industry would not be so big today. Marriage, in my opinion is a committment to one person, but it does not mean that they are not still a man....good luck.

Answer 8

Some men look at a gal that lets it all hang out and thinks she is a slut ,and no way dose he fantasize about her .
And then there is the opposite that their tongues hang out and they fantasize about her . Hopefully your guy is in between these

Answer 9

Looking at another woman is something every man does. They cannot control that, but to fantasize is one thing they have control over. That is wrong....

Answer 10

I'm pretty sure it's normal for married women to notice other men too. You're committed, not dead. As long as no one acts on the fantasy, nothing is wrong with it.