i need support!!?

Question

I was assaulted last week. Some crack head man tried to rob me. He snuck up behind me and started hitting me in my head several times with an unknown object. I had to have 7 staples in my head i am grateful to even be alive. He didnt even get any money from me. He stole my purse and i had a nice sum of money in there only he took the wallet out and threw my purse down with money still in purse. I also do not keep my credit cards or id or anything in my wallet only thing in there was my insurance cards and ss card. I know it could have been worse and i am happy that it wasnt but i am so nervous to go anywhere anymore. It was 11:30 am that this happened..broad daylight!

the police was called on the scene and i knew it wouldnt do any good to catch the guy cause i didnt get a good look at him he snuck up from behind me.

women- be careful of your surroundings u may think this wont happen to u but it can! I dont even know how to deal with it

i dont want anyone to do anything but say something supportive...

Answer 1

The world can often seem inevtably scary. There are too many opportunities for things like this to happen.

But, Jay - you're a survivor. I wish we could reach out and pat you on the back; perhaps it's best we do it 'figuratively,' not physically! That said, some people just would say "You're a survivor, you're strong" and think that was that - OK to say "You're done, you can do this" -- but we know there's more to the story. You're not five, you didn't fall off a bicycle and learn to get back up; you're in a time and place where thugs with crappy attitudes have rage and roam selfishly. The guy violated your sense of trust, zapped your energy, and frustrated/put a hiccup in your life by making you go through tons of bureaucracy and calls to cancel cards and so on. No one should have that happen; it;s not OK; it's not enough to say "Easy, sistah, you made it through."

Jay, you've got a strong will and a good head on your shoulders.
Use all the resources you have ... carefully and when you need 'em. For example, some people will listen again and again; identify that support network. Some people will be superficial and move on ... or be uncomfortable discussing it ... but might do you other favors. Assess those things. While you certainly aren't going to manipulate anyone because you got hurt, you need to make use of the assets you have. It will make you feel stronger and make you feel like you have more of a long-term plan.

I haven't been in your shoes, but I remember the feeling of almost being killed in a car crash a few years ago. How does this relate? That hideous feeling of "What just happened?" and "How can I be in a car/on the road?" is probably a little like the feelings you've had, particularly the 'nervous to go anywhere' part. The only thing to say there? When others have violated our trust (it's even like a bad relationship, where someone cheats), we find ways to breath in, breath out ... and come up with a way to think about what happened and how it will or won't affect us. Some people try to pretend it won't affect 'em; that's just putting things off. You can either make real efforts to 'do the things you did' before (the 'regain all your freedoms' method, so to speak), or you can think about what happened with that good strong head on your shoulders and see if you want to 'put in lace' some changes (the 'reasonable precautions' method, so to speak) to satisfy your mind you're being 'prudent enough' not to be a high risk again.

The world goes on and has soooooo much happening that we can't imagine we can control all of it. If we did, we probably wouldn't like all of it, anyway. But what we can do is find ways to make the msot of what is good ... and see where our trust is reasonable.

You, Jay, have probably handled the crappy necessary/immediate reactions. Sometimes the long-term effects seem worse - having to deal with the not wanting to go out. But, Jay, breath in, breath out, and find ways to work it out. Life's still worth tryig - and a better life ahead still exists.

Hang in there, stranger - others do care.

Answer 2

Wow. I am glad that hasn't happened to me. It's hard for someone who has never been assaulted at random to sympathize beyond being sorry for what you've been through.
I imagine myself feeling much like you are feeling now. I guess since life must go on, I would have to force myself to venture outside on a daily basis. I would probably carry either pepper spray or a small knife in my purse as well. I guess I'd try and make sure that I am always in places that are well lit, and well populated.
I would try and take comfort in the fact that odds are, this won't happen to me again. Maybe you could change your daily routine. Walk to a different bus stop, or leave for work/school earlier in the day. Anything I could do to make myself feel safer, I'd be doing.
I hope that you get through this. You may want to consider seeing a counsellor or therapist. Try going to your doctor for a referral.
Good Luck with everything!

P.S. Report your ss number stolen. People can really mess with your identity once they have that.

Answer 3

I was at an ATM in side a grocery store right beside the service desks. When a drunk man in front of me couldn't get the machine to work. He stumbled away mumbling some thing I could understand. I stepped to the machine swiped my card and Then I felt this hand pushing the back of my neck and pushed my head into the screen of the ATM. I jerked away unharmed and told him not to touch me. He got right in my face and started yelling about how he was going to beat me up. None of it made any sense to me, he didn't want anything. He did not try to rob me. I was scared and after the man slid out the door the store Mgr finally showed up and walked me out to my car. I could remember my husbands cell phone number which is so odd because I can dial it without even looking at the number pad on my phone. I didn't go back to that store for a long time. I still get funny feelings when I go in there. I hope you feel better soon. Find something that makes you laugh and think about it when you start to panic it worked for me. Best of wishes.

Answer 4

You are alive and well! I always walk with an alert to my surroundings. Around here there are crap loads of Crack heads! One guy tries to always ask me for money and then stares at me and Laughs his *** off... Scares the HELL RIGHT OUT OF ME!! I nver really carry anything in my wallet either.... I normally keep my money in my pocket! I guess this goes to show that anything can happen at any time. You made it out well, and may take a minnuet to heal, but atleast you come out of this a stronger woman!!

Answer 5

I am so glad you are O.K.
I can't imagine what you must be going through. It's so unfortunate that your right to feel safe was taken away by that guy. It makes sense to me that you would be nervous to go out. I hope you have a great support system that can be with you right now. Keep doing what you're doing. Talk about it. Know that whatever you feel is what you should be feeling. You will be in my thoughts.

Answer 6

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 7

honey , i feel for you . i don't know how i would react to that kind of situation . but truly it could even happen while you where home .i am glad you where not hurt any more than u where.u will never forget it .i am glad the police showed up because there now aware and they can keep a watchfull eye on that erea of town ...........may god be with you .

Answer 8

Well be grateful you are still alive and well. You should probably report your SSCard being stolen though. Insurance cards as well just to be safe. He may not have stolen your money but he could still get your Identity.

Answer 9

listen the police will catch him they will be on top of there game and i think that you shouldn't let that stop u from going any where just be careful and feel better and i glad that u r ok

Answer 10

Call the police!Describe the man!