I have afriend who has been married for 2yrs but she is tired and her man is a jerk sometimes. She is not sure if she loves him. She just met someone else that she is atracted to. Should she cheat?
2007-02-17 11:31:45 · 25 answers · asked by later 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No she shouldn't cheat, if there are no kids involved,I say she needs to get out of this relationship first before even considering getting involved in another one.
2007-02-17 11:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOO!!! What is she thinking? When you marry someone, you marry them "for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, forsaking ALL others, till death do you part". You don't marry someone "until someone better comes along". Your friend is not taking her marriage vows seriously. Okay, so her husband is a jerk sometimes. Do you mean to tell me that she is always perfect and doesn't act b*tchy sometimes herself? C'mon! We ALL act that way one time or another. If she is attracted to someone else, then it shows she is normal. Men are attracted to women who are not their wives also. What else is new? The thing is, you can't go after someone just because you are attracted to them. I can tell you, from my own knowledge of men, that if her husband cheated on her every time he felt an attraction to another woman, then he would likely be cheating every day. Men are physically-oriented and think about sex WAY more than we women do. If he hasn't cheated on her, then that shows that there IS goodness in him, despite how much of a jerk he can be at times. What your friend needs right now is a good dose of reality - if she cheats, her marriage will likely end. Is this guy SUCH a jerk that he deserves to be hurt in this way just so that your friend can selfishly have her fling? I would suggest marriage counseling for the two of them. If you are a good friend, you won't encourage her to throw her marriage away this way. I am divorced, and everyone I talk to who have been divorced, even those coming out of horrible marriages, have said that it is very painful and difficult. Your friend will be joining that club if she is not careful.
2007-02-17 19:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Cheating is the worst thing you could do!! She needs to be away from her man for a while and sort out her feelings, but she should not cheat! That would make her married life even worse and have serious consequences in the end!
2007-02-17 19:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
If nothing else, cheating is just plain disorderly. You don't finish your feelings for the first person and they get all tangled up with the second person and you screw yourself in the end.
Get a divorce. Live alone for a while. Then start dating. You'll be glad in the end.
2007-02-17 19:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she should cheat just cause things are not perfect at this moment. she would not want her man doing that to her. The guilt would be terrible and it would cause more problems. She should seek counseling with her husband and try to spice things up in the marriage. and if worse comes to worse then they should divorce and then she can see who ever she wants
2007-02-17 19:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. If one is not in love with the one you are with then you should leave before getting involved with someone Else.
It's never okay to cheat.
2007-02-17 19:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe cheating is the answer, but she is going to do what she is going to do. They should talk to each other about their relationship and figure out together what they want to do. I mean if her husband feels like she does then screw it and do whatever
good luck
2007-02-17 19:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by miseryluvscompany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTLY NOT!!!!! If she is unclear about her feelings with her HUSBAND, how can she be clear about her feelings for this other guy? Figure one problem out before you create another one. The thing about REGRET is that you can NEVER take it back. Whether she stays or goes...figure it out!! Does anyone believe in the word INTEGRITY anymore?! GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-17 19:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by CrAzY D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIVORCE, first,,,get an anullment..then put your radars in action...the guy she likes maybe a jerk too,maybe worse..having the complete freedom thing leaves you open to more fish in the sea...good luck
2007-02-17 19:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by dano_xldd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she jumps into another relationship before she figures out why the first one failed she is likely to repeat the same mistake. Get on problems solved before you take one another.
2007-02-17 20:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋