that the reason why sex dies after marriage is because a woman sees it as "we're married now, so i dont have to give him as much sex to keep him", and the man sees it as "we're married now, so i can get all the sex i want."?
2007-02-17 11:06:01 · 13 answers · asked by shaq 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my wife just told me that you are sooooooooooo right . and i am not going to get any tonight . Thanks
2007-02-17 11:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I disagree. I think it depends on the couple. Part of it is that men, by nature, want every woman they see. So having sex with the same person for the rest of their lives is a BIG committment. I know that sounds bad, but it is true for a lot of dudes out there. So I think, that the sex things dies down after marriage in part because of that. It gets old. As for woman, I dont think they should use sex as a tool to trap a guy into marriage. If they do, they are asking for problems.
2007-02-17 19:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by C. A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont agree. i think that it depends on the personalities of the couples. i feel that most men want "a lady on the street but a freak in the bed". In other words most every couple who is in love can make love but in order to keep the romance going there needs to be experiments, sex in different places other than just the bedroom. well if you have the type of woman who never wants to experiment and can't realize that although you may be having kinky sex you are still making love because you are trying new thing with the one you are in love with well then this is what makes sex in a relationship die down. Also there is a thing called teammates and a lot of times men do want intercourse more often than women and most times when you become married you might want to start a family, maybe your going to school for a career, maybe you both work and especially when there are children involved sex tends to kind of be put aside until every thing else is taken care of. yes this can get frustrating and it sucks but if you truly are in love with each other you will understand that most of the time we truly are just to tired and not just trying to avoid sex because we got you and you aint never going to leave wether we give it up or not. it isnt like that at least not for me. My husband wants it all the time. and I am almost always the one to decline but let me tell you I always want it too. its just that the timing aint right or id rather not have sex while i was half asleep. I might be referred to as a "dead f**k". But we love each other and we end up finding the right time or place and it is just always perfect. Never died down yet. Everytime is always great.
2007-02-17 19:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by mamamia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Because sex is not a reason to keep a man. If he loves you sex is not the only reason he is with you.
It happens because I think you lose your way sometimes and you get preoccupied with what comes after marriage such as children,work,bills just the everyday and it becomes mundane.
2007-02-17 19:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by mora fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - I think from the man's side it is more that now sex can be gotten without having to work for it - and what he is classifying as work, the woman understands as showing her that he loves her.
So since he is not telling or showing her that he loves her (in ways that are important to her) she is less inclined to respond physically to overtures that are, to her mind, strictly for sex.
If you don't include love and attention and sharing in how you understand a woman deals with sex, you have a one way conversation, and there is going to be frustration.
2007-02-17 19:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that some people do think like that but I disagree totally. If my partner felt like either of the above I would not have spent enough time getting to know him before marriage - as I could not be treated either way frankly.
2007-02-17 19:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in some case's that is true. I also believe once you are married you see each other every day you do almost everything together you don't have the excitement you did when you are dating the missing each other and the longing anymore.
2007-02-17 19:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by Debra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do but it also dies because the man doesnt work as hard for as he did in the beginning. He thinks its supposed to be ready when he wants it.
2007-02-17 19:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..........it seems to me that there are just as many women complaining about their husband's lack of interest in sex as there are husbands complaining about their wives. In my case, our sex life EXPLODED because my wife KNEW that I wasn't going anywhere. So she REALLY opened up. In other cases people just fizzle out. And from the looks of it, it's easier for people to complain about their spouses, have affairs, and masturbate to web porn, over actually TALKING with each other about what turns them on!
2007-02-17 19:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Men begin to treat their wives like she is his mother. Who wants to have sex with her son?
2007-02-17 19:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm OK if this is the case in your marriage than don't complain....I want more sex than my husband.....but I think the sex slows down because it gets old.....ya gota spice it up....
2007-02-17 19:10:56 · answer #11 · answered by D@rkAng3L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋