Why is she like this?

Question

My 17 year old sister literally cries 24/7. Whenever I see her at home, she's always crying.

When I ask her why, she says something ridiculous. She never stops, she cries all night and keeps me up. The other night, I got into a major fight because I told her to shut up because I couldn't get any sleep.

She is making my life miserable. I'm always tired and cranky because I can never get any sleep when she is around because she is crying. I feel like I just to sew her mouth shut.

Now that I think of it, I don't think she has stopped crying in the last month or two (maybe she stops in school, but never at home). How can I stop this before I go crazy.

She has a boyfriend, job, and lots of friends. I barely see them, so I can't ask them whats wrong (or if she cries in front of them).

Whenever I see her, she's crying.

I have told this to my parents, but they won't tell me what's wrong.

Overall, we're nice to eachother (except she does annoy me with her crying and that gets me mad). And she's very hard to communicate with.

She doesn't seem depressed. It's actually very weird the way she cries. It's not your normal "emotional" crying. She does everything while crying (eating, showering, talking to people, watching tv, laughing, etc.)

Answer 1

Sounds serious. First of all being 17 and a girl is tough, a lot of changes and emotions to go through, physically, emotionally, and socially. I know i know, i am a guy, still i have sister and lucky enough we are pretty close to each other. And I don't know how close you are to her.

But you should start a dialogue with her. You really should try to listen to what she has to say instead of dismissing it as ridiculous gibberish. If she is crying all the time at home, she is probably feeling like she has no other way to vent her frustrations or sadness and crying because she feels like that is all she can do to express her feelings. Talking about her problems will give her another outlet to express her feelings instead of crying. If she doesn't want to talk right then, just express your concern for her, and let her know that you want to be there for her and let her know if she wants to talk that you are there to listen.

And try to find out, what is bothering her, keep your ears open and keep your eyes open looking for clues to why she is crying, or if you know some of her friends at school, ask them if they have noticed any changes with you sister or if they see anything that bothers her. Not to generalize too much, but at that age usually it's a relationship with guy or socially not being excepted. Hopefully its not anything more serious than those two.

She might not open up right away, but eventually she might start talking about it more. If she does then the crying should lessen because expressing it through words and to another person is an outlet in themselves. And remember this is not a quick fix.

Also maybe try to distract her like taking her out with friends, or going for a walk together. If she is crying in front of you she is trying to reach out to someone, maybe you. If she is comfortable crying in front of you, maybe just having someone to hold her and tell her its going to be ok, will be the thing she needs. Good luck, God bless..

Answer 2

Again, before you yell at her, get her to open up to you. Tell her whatever is bothering her, no matter how small or large, you are there for her, and will listen. Pehaps she is having female problems, as this can happen when girls go through growth spirts. Its nothing dangerous. If you are really worried, tell your mom you think your sister needs someone to talk to that isn't family. A counselor is a good choice as she wont' see this as a threat. They are good mediators and can give advice in ways parents sometimes can't. Remember this too, when you are young, even the smallest of things seems like its huge. But put this into perspective and you realize its just stuff and over time, unless its something serious like she was attacked by someone, or pregnant, its workable. You can get through alot more than you realize. It might seem bad now, but when you calm down, look at things in a different way, you see all sort of new ways to deal with things. Also, boy issues at this age are big stuff, but the reality is this, no matter what a guy says or does, its mostly talk. They are squirly at this age and don't understand stuff themselves and just copy what thier friends say and do to be cool. But there is smart cool and dumb cool and you want to be smart cool. So tell your sister, you got this from a cool mom who has kids, and to not worry about things and to enjoy life.

Answer 3

It sounds like she is stressed from school/work/home/friends. I am going to guess she's a senior in High School approaching graduation. There are so many things going on in life right then, it's just very stressful! Does she have a boyfriend? Did they break up? Does she have a job? Does she have worries about where to go to college and how she will pay for it?
Be a nice, helpful little sister, and try to make her life easier,and maybe she will stop crying and smile at you!

Answer 4

She may have something bother her and needs some counsling to help her get through what ever is bothering us. Yes but you need to be there for her. She's been through alot in her life maybe. I think both of you need to go through some counsloring and tell her how much you love her

Answer 5

There may be something going on in her life that is pretty serious. This could be something she is doing to get attention. I would tell your parents and suggest counseling. She may need a bipartisan party to talk to.

Answer 6

its sounds like your cold hearted.maybe something real bad has happened have you thought of that? she might need to be on meds for depression? maybe some one has hurt her and this is the only way she can deal with it? quit thinking of your self try to get her to open up and talk to you it sounds like she needs some one who cares about her..let me tell you this .... you are going to feel soooo bad if you find out that some one is hurting her in a way that is sexual,or if she commits suicide or any thing that makes her start cutting on her self.....think about that now...maybe shes the one who feels like going crazy.....

i will be praying for her to get better and for you to get a heart...

Answer 7

have you tried talking to her and really trying to find out what's wrong? don't yell at her or seem annoyed when you ask her or she won't open up to you. if you can't get anything out of her try getting a relative close to her age or tell your parents to take her to a doctor. excessive crying can be a sign of depression... which is common. i cried a lot when i was her age and it was b/c of depression. try to be understanding... being a teenager is hard.

Answer 8

Sounds like your parents need to find out why she is crying in the first place.

Answer 9

I think you should kindly and sincerely approach her and try to get to the bottowm of it as her sister so you can help her get through it and you two can smile together again.

Answer 10

Your sister needs professional help. That means that you can't do anything about it except to talk with your parents and urge them to help her to get the help that she needs. And without whining about it yourself (as you are here), let your parents know the effect that this is having on you.