2007-02-17 10:45:56 · 26 answers · asked by Cindy Bank 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl, let your hair down! Go to a specialty store with him and you both agree to pick out a few things. I would suggest forgetting the hand-cuff, whips, and rubber since you are apprehensive. But at least give some of the gentle things a try. You have to keep the spice alive in your relationship. But never agree to anything that you are absolutely against.
2007-02-17 10:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by JusMe 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I use to be apprehensive also, until my husband moved out. Now I use one pretty regularly. But I think that you & your hubby should go to "specialty" shop to pick out something together that you both think that you would like to try. Actually you don't even have to go anywhere, you can order things over the net. That's how I got mine and it was very discreet, came in a plain cardboard box & was even discreet on my credit card bill. Take a look at mypleasure.com and there are many others out there but I used mypleasure. Some of the "toys" are pretty pricey but lots aren't!
2007-02-17 11:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by Donna J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shop a little on line and pick out some that you both find interesting. Make it a special night. Have a nice candle light dinner and have a little wine. The alcohol helps loosen up inhibitions and make you feel less apprehensive. Take your husband to the bed room filled with candles and have fun!!
2007-02-17 11:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, go shopping with him. Whether you shop in person or by the internet, go shopping with him.
There is nothing wrong with using toys, just as long as you both agree on the general type of toy. And just because he wants to introduce toys doesn't mean he wants to get really kinky. He could be talking about something as small as a tongue vibrator, something that adds sensation to activities that you already enjoy together.
2007-02-17 10:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, make sure that you and him are comfortable using them. You need to decide on what toys may work and what may not.
Personally, I love them, and I'm the one who wanted to start using them. My hubby thinks they're great too, mainly because he doesn't have to always do so much work... he he.
I would recommend a book called Supersex by Tracey Cox. It has a chapter on sex toys but it's also a great book for everything to do with sex and relationships.
Have fun!!
2007-02-17 11:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by illumina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married couples need new and exciting ways and things to keep their intimate lives fresh and alive. They even have sex toy parties like for tupper wear. Take a friend they are fun and private at purchasing time. Go to a nude beach and later the sex will be fun. Start out small with little Vib Toys and lubricant.
2007-02-17 10:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by koolpig 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well talk to him and tell him how you feel. But what if you told him that you would try it once and if you didn't like it you wouldn't do it again. Maybe if he learned how you felt he won't keep talking about toys. Or maybe he wants to satisfy you better than he has been doing. But get with him and talk about it and get it out in the open.
2007-02-17 10:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just watch out for little dump trucks.. they might hurt if you roll over on one in the middle of the night. Nothing wrong with toys if you both agree.. If not.. don't introduce them..
2007-02-17 10:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it a try. You might like it. Just start slow and stop if anything feels bad or you're not comfortable with it. There is nothing wrong with adding a little spice in the bedroom. Have fun and enjoy yourself!
2007-02-17 11:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah, why the heck would anyone want to try enhancing the sex experience. It's all about getting it done as quickly and as mechanically as possible. Strictly a biological procedure....
LADY...GIVE it a shot! Holy crap, it's worth a few bucks for the chance at an intenser O. Get one of those...ermm. Oh figure it out yourselves.
2007-02-17 10:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋