He's been unemployed for over a year, he has broken a window, a door, put numerous holes in the wall, last week he pointed a loaded gun at me and shot it into the ceiling. I also recently found evidence that he was cheating on me with an obese woman. He's the father of my child, he has no money, he has nowhere to go if I kick him out. I don't know what to do. Please help.
2007-02-17 10:44:34 · 30 answers · asked by keetan312 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
uhhh violent.. no money.....cheating.....question is.. wait.. I'm not sure why there even IS a question here.. No users, no losers, dump him.
2007-02-17 10:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by maccrew6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While he's at work, call the local public legal aid office. Tell them exactly what you have posted.
If you call at 10 AM, then before he gets off work at 5 PM the no contact restraining order should be delivered.
Call a locksmith and get the locks changed. (after the restraining order is set up) He won't be allowed to live there so he doesn't need a key that works.
Put 911 on speed dial. If he shows up... don't open the door. Hit the button.
Note that you'll have to go to court within 2 weeks to see a judge if you want the restraining order to last longer than 2 weeks. SHOW UP AT COURT.
NEVER LET HIM BACK
If he's pointed a gun at you and set it off... there's a bullet hole. Get a picture. Get a cop to look at it.
Note... if the hole is patched already... it can still be found. Sand off the paint and spackle and the hole will show up.
2007-02-17 18:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do: the next time this happens call the police and tell them everything that happened; change your locks, get a restraining order, and have him put in jail overnight. Just put him out and tell him you know about his cheating; tell him to go over to the obese woman's house!
Let me explain something, don't you think things have gotten a little too out of hand!? I mean, this man has nothing to offer you and your child, he's destroying your property and threatening you and your child's life. He fired a gun at the cieling and that stray bullet could have ended up anywhere - it could have killed you or your child. What kind of life you think your child would have had if you died or if your child died, you would have regretted not making this decision sooner for the both your benefit.
Make the right decision for you and your child, put him out!
2007-02-17 19:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Dimples 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a serious problem. Just the fact that he has the gun in the house would worry me. The fact that he fired it into the ceiling would worry me also. He is a bully...trying to intimidate you, trying to scare you...which you should be scared. He is lazy and not contributing to the family...and destructive. This is not going to get any better. However, the last thing I would want to do now is make him angry. You need to seek advice and help from a professional. Then their are restraining orders also that you need to check into. Once..you have done all this go to the authorities...and they will help, they will go with you on the day you want him out. After that change the locks...put in dead bolts...move if you have to, but do anything you can to protect yourself and your child. You need to move on...because there are a lot of caring people out there and you need to meet someone else. Good Luck.
2007-02-17 18:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by natashainka 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all who cares if he has anywhere to go and the fact that you have a child with him should be reason enough to kick him out tonight. If you have a son and he grows up watching his father behave like this and treat you like crap...guess what he'll do it to his girlfriends and then to his wife. If you have a daughter she will grow up and allow herself to be treated the same way you yourself are treated. There is absolutely nothing good your husband can offer your child except a swift exit. If you love your child at all you'll have that man gone by morning. Also be send your child to a g-parent or friend while you do the deed, it would not be fair to your child to have to witness that. Although from what you say I'm sure he's already seen worse....You need to be a better parent.
2007-02-17 18:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Petra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in an abusive relationship. GET OUT NOW. Let the police know what is going on, and get into a shelter. The fact he pointed a loaded gun at you is a big red flag; eventually, he will either hurt or kill you. You are better than this situation; get out, get a restraining order, file for divorce, and realize that your children need to see a better situation than this. It is also recommended that you seek counseling, as well as job assistance. I know you are scared; but it's time for him to grow up, and time for you to do better for yourself. And by the way, as a big woman, whether she is big or little, cheating is wrong! Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-17 19:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is dangerous so you need to get yourself and your child to a safe place where he can't hurt you two.
Then you need to report him to the police. He pointed a loaded gun at you. No sane person would do that. The next time he might put a bullet in you instead of the ceiling.
He has to go, but you need to do it in a way that is safe for you and your child.
2007-02-17 18:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is that violent for one why haven't you called the cops? A gun to your head? That is a no brainer..no pun intended. Um and why would you mention that the person he cheated on you with was obese...what does the weight have to do with anything...the fact that he cheated should be enough!
So if you don't want to kick him to the street that is your problem not mine.
2007-02-17 18:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by Nails 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the behaviour he is displaying towards you, especially that you have a child with him....you need to get away from him its that simple. If u are afraid to tell him to go, find a safe place for u and your child to go. Things will only escalate worse if u dont stop it now. He will end up hurting you or killing you and then what happens to your child. Do what is best for your child and get away. As for him having no where to go, with the way he treats you so violently, the only thing that matters is that he is away from you. GET RID OF HIM!!!!!!!!!! and its not your problem if he has no where to go
2007-02-17 18:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by spacelee666 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should file a report with the poice for the gun incident..then give him an eviction notice. Do you really want you child around a man prone to violence. Please...get out while you still can!
2007-02-17 18:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by War Veteran 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so what kick him out anyway he pointed a loaded gun at u if you let him stay your baby might not have a mommy and still will barely have a dad kick him out then get a restraining order against him as he sounds violent!
2007-02-17 18:51:37 · answer #11 · answered by Avaria 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋