Why do men who know you hit on you knowing you are unavailable?

Question

Why do men who know you hit on you knowing you are unavailable?

In the past 2 months, 2 men asked me for oral sex. One was a coworker and one was a friend in a band.

Both men knew I was married and knew my husband. I’m very faithful and don’t believe in cheating. It always happens when I go out with my girlfriends and my husband is not there. When I do go out I like to do my hair and makeup and I always ware genes with tank top, and I always cover my self up with something. ( shirt/jacket over top ect.) No mid-drift or over exposure or like that. (I‘m only a B cup… Not like I‘m falling out of my top.)

Any insight as to why men are hitting on me. Also the men that have asked me for this sort of thing are involved and have children with there live in girlfriends.

Lastly, I do hang at local bars to hear bands play and this never happens to my single friends? This is the part that bugs me.

Answer 1

It's hard to say why it's happening particularly to you, but sadly, it's a sad statement as to the quality of men these days. It seems like people are more concerned with protecting one's right to behave lewdly than to uphold strong Christian moral values.

As far as knowing you are unavailable, unfortunately it's more attractive to guys in their situation. They are not looking for someone that would be emotionally clingy or needs financial support. Someone that is married that is willing to give them what they want is like a dream come true to them. I don't think there is an easy solution for the problem, but I would just make it abundantly clear that you are not at all interested.

Hope this was helpful.