if you had a affair with a married person,and you destroyed that marrige?

Question

but children were involed,who should pick up the tab for the children,the state,or you who destroyed the marrige,yes it takes two to tango, just a question.

Answer 1

Both, wife and husband. It has nothing to do with kids.

Answer 2

I think you worded the question a little strangely. The way I see it, the individual who went off with the one parent is not directly involved (morals aside), and it certainly is not a state matter. It is for the two parents to sort it out. In my experience, the breakdown of the marriage is one thing and custody/ maintenance for the children is totally separate. If one parent is better suited to being "primary carer" the other partner would logically make contribution to the continued raising of the (innocent) children. This is a financial and an upbringing (cre and attention) issue. If there is a debate about caring, it needs sorting urgently, in the interests of the children. If neither party wants the responsibility, then the scum are not worthy to be parents, but that is true of many couples, so once again it needs to be agreed legally. BTW, affairs don't destroy marriages, there is an underlying weakness that makes the affair possible.

Answer 3

I believed the person that came out of the marriage to be in your arms has already destroyed the marriage. You cannot break a marriage unless it is already broken. The parents pick up the tab for the children.

Answer 4

The children are the ones who pick up the tab when adults are selfish and childish.

This question should have been asked before the children were disregarded.

Answer 5

That's a very bad question and just cos someone breaks up a marriage doesn't mean they have to pick up the 'tab' as you put it. Ridiculous question that. The only people on earth that have any responsibility with those children are the parents

Answer 6

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Answer 7

If you helped destroy the Marriage,then you and your new cheating partner both have a responsibility to financially help out the persons you destroyed,you took the cheating partner on knowing there were kids involved so it's you problem

Answer 8

I would not be able to live with myself. I seem to have managed to avoid doing that despite my long and chequered history. In truth I think no-one would actually" pick up the tab" until with the kids totally screwed they end up in care or in court. Unless some knight in shining armour takes responsibility. But that's fairy tale talk.

Answer 9

well as you said it takes two to tangp and the two people who did tango should pick up the bill

Answer 10

What on earth does the state have to do with this? Are you one of these liberals who think the government should take care of you?
God help us from our nanny govt.

Answer 11

Now I could say Go ask my ex husband that one, but he'd be too embarrassed to answer. He left me for a Catholic married woman with 2 girls. And left me with 3 sons, now he is quite ill and hardly see's his kids. Oh well!!