Am I being ridiculous?

Question

My cousin came over last night and her baby is 3 months, and she just started changing her on my couch. I can't stand that, it makes me so mad to see people change their children on a couch. I told her that I do have a change table, as I have a 5 month old, and she just kept on changing her child there. Then just before she left, she did it again, and I even told her the first time, to use the change table in my daugthers room. Im so mad at her, I think its so disrespectful and she should not have done that. Am I being ridiculous, or am I right in being mad that she did that?

Answer 1

I dont think so. It's a matter of respect. If you have a problem with her changing her baby on YOUR couch she should respect that. Quite frankly i wouldnt want anyone changing their baby on my couch either. Its a whole bunch of "stuff" that can get on your couch. its kind of nasty to me

Answer 2

I can understand your feelings but as a mother to a 7 month old I would not use someone elses kids changing table. Family or not, I don't know the last time the cover was wash or what germs are on there. I don't like changing my daughter on couches either but we have disposable changing mats we take out with us. I would rather change her on a couch with a mat verses someone elses babies changing table or the nasty floor. Now i would never changer her on the couch either with out a mat because that is disrespectful, I mean what if the baby accidentally went on the couch and we all know it happens and we cant stop it. But yea so if you didn't want her to do that, then instead of tip toeing around the subject you should have straight out told her! And you cant be mad because you didnt clearly state that she wasnt to do that.

Answer 3

I don't think you are being ridiculous because it is your house. You have the right to say what you want people to do in your house. I do change my son on my family members couch/bed but I also use a changing pad under him. But that is only because none of my family members have small children. Their children are between the ages of 5 and 13.

I think you should just be blunt about it. Instead of suggesting the changing table tell her you want her to use the changing table and not your couch. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Well, personally I think you are being ridiculous. But you should have told her that you would prefer her not to do that, and use the changing table in the baby's room.

It is your house, and your furniture. If this is something that bothers you, just let her know. More than likely, she figured since you both have kids, she would not invade the space of your child and just use the couch, where it is near the diaper bag, but soft and large enough for her baby to lay on. I am sure she meant nothing by it, and was not trying to **** you off.

Answer 5

It is your couch so you have the right to feel however you wish. Next time be more direct I guess...

I honestly don't mind changing her on the couch as long as their isn't many people around. If it was just the two of you then I don't see the big deal. If it is a room full then take her in the other room.

Just tell her that you have a huge pet peeve about changing diapers other than on the changing table. She'll understand - we all have our quirks.

Take Care,
SD

Answer 6

Damn, it's just a baby. You were a baby once and I'd bet bullion that someone changed your butt on a couch somewhere along the way too. You must be a first time mom. You will ease up soon after you start getting stressed like a summamabitch trying to do everything perfect and by the manual. Hey....this just in....THERE IS NO MANUAL. Ease up on the woman. seen, I could understand if she came over with her man and they started screwing on the couch...but a baby's diaper change? Get the hell outta here. You better hope your baby doesn't have colic, as high strung as you sound, you'll be up craps creek on medication.

Relax lady. It's not that damn serious. Whoa! My one year old just dropped her bottle on the floor and picked it up and kept drinking it. Wanna turn me into DFACS for child abuse cause I didn't run to rinse it off???

Answer 7

You have the right to your opinion, no matter what another person thinks.

The fact that your cousing proceeded to change her child on your couch after you told her that changing her child on your couch was inappropriate and offered your daughter's changing table shows a lack of consideration on her part.

There is nothing wrong with telling your cousin on her next visit that if she chooses not to change her child in your designated area don't be surprised if she's not invited back.

Where the child is changed isn't this issue so much as your cousin's lack of respect for you. Your house, your rules.

Answer 8

i don't think you are being ridiculous because babies pee when they are being changed. a changing table can be cleaned and sterilized a lot easier than a couch. Not to mention that it's your house, your couch and you offered a perfectly reasonable solution for her to change her baby. If you told her to do it on the floor then the couch would of made sense to most moms i think but the changing table is there for that purpose.

Answer 9

i do think you are over reacting a lil bit... BUT it is your house, like the others said.

however; some people perfer not to use changing tables, i LOVE them... and think the same way you do about it. but my sis in law hates them, and would perfer a couch, or chair or floor, something.

just next time tell her to use the table instead, not just suggest it like it seems like, be more direct with her. plus i'm guessing she did use a changing pad, so nothing got on your couch. at least i hope not cuz man i would be very upset if it did lol so just ask her to use the floor maybe instead if she doesn't like changing tables...

Answer 10

I understand where you are coming from-but you were being ridiculous. She must have had a changing pad or something under her baby. Why waste your energy and time being mad at her for this? In her home, that is probably what she does, it makes it easier, and more conveniet, plus, she probably had only a certain amount of time to visit with you, and she didn't want to waste any of the time.