I'm seperated from my ex wife and everytime i ph my son my ex sis-in-law sings joyfully "loser loser loser" in the backgound. how damaging can this be for my boy.? he's only 5. no matter wot these people think of me how can they be so insensitive to him?
2007-02-17 09:26:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This may sound very silly but... it's time. Call ask to speak to your ex-wife. Start the conversation with, we need to talk about our son, please do me a favor and but aside your feeling towards me for this one call and lets talk about our child, it's important. Explain that you both need to set aside your differences and when you call your son you would appreciate if your sister in law did not sing loser or call any name, not because of your feelings but your son's. You need explain to her that when you or she speaks ill of each other he feels hurt. A child should not have to choose between his/or her parents. Please grow up both of you, if you both love your child set aside your differences and make peace. I ask that both of you enjoy your son make his life a great experience and he will respect and love you for it. If she does not listen to you send her this e-mail. Explain that I know from experience that a child needs both parents and that he will love you for overcoming your differences for him. Good Luck and remember to love him, no matter what.
2007-02-17 09:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by latinalisette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I obviously don't know why you are getting these responses but, if your son can hear them, they are harmful. Record the goings on and take the evidence to Social Services.
I have to say that, if what you said is true, I'm amazed you haven't gone to the authorities already. You must do something about it! Your son is going to suffer otherwise. At least make sure that you make enough people aware that there is a problem and that you intend to do something about it. That way, you are registering your concerns which could be used at a later date to strengthen your case should things not go the way you want at the moment.
2007-02-17 09:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by saljegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you it is wrong to behave in this way, can you have a word with your ex and see if she can stop this childish behaviour. The lad will be so mixed up hearing all the negative things about you. That is what they mean when they say it is the kids who suffer but it did not be if all parties acted responsibly. Good luck to you and carry on loving your son he will make his own mind up when he gets a little older.
2007-02-17 09:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your lawyer a call, and tell him whats happening when you call your son. Maybe he can draw up papers of some sort, and take your ex to court. She obviously does not care about the sister-in-law ridiculing you when you are trying to talk to your son. I can imagine what she is telling your son behind your back. Thats not fair to your son or you. The son will undoubetly remember parts of the ridiculing. Good luck if you persue your lawyer, and what might be done about the situation.
2007-02-17 09:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by idaho_native57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is calling you a loser in front of your son, she is gonna give him a bad image of you if he's only 5. You need to talk to your ex about her sister, and then you two need to have a talk with her sister. Tell her that she can think what she wants about you, but keep the opinions to herself when she's around your son.
2007-02-17 09:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really pathetic. What sort of people would abuse a child in this way? What she is saying to your little boy is "son of loser, son of loser". Some people are not fit to be let near kids and she is one of them.
2007-02-17 09:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Finbarr D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, regrettably, evidently like he's advertising pills of a few variety. Have his cellular telephone provider became off, or have a communique with him. considering the fact that he's 15, you in all probability won't have lots administration over him, so all you're able to do it communicate over with him with reference to the hazards and damaging aspects, and that he's jeopardizing his destiny. i assume you ought to call the law enforcement officers and have him busted, for his own sturdy.
2016-11-23 15:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by donegan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like an idiot,your son will realise when hes old enough where his loyalties lie,I feel for you having to listen to it,it will be water off a ducks back to your little un,just because he loves his daddy,and noone will be able to take that away from him,even if they try.
2007-02-17 10:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your x-sis etc sounds like the loser to me. If she & her sis (ur x) are so insecure with your contacting a 5yr yr old... imagine how bad it'll be wen he's 10! You're rite, it is likely to have a detrimental effect on his attitude, but, prob to his attitude to his mother & Aunt. My flatmate's 9yr old daughter lives with her mother & every time she's permitted to visit (meant to be alternate wkends but she normally blanks him for month's 'til she needs something from him) she hates going back, & is insisting that as soon as she's @ secondry school (able to take herself to school) she's moving in with us & having nothing more to do with her mother. (which her father refutes).
2007-02-17 09:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree; can't you have a quiet word with your ex-wife and say this to her? Also ,[erhaps it would be better if you took your son out as well as phoning then she will not be able to sing in the background. If you have not got access sorted then hurry up and do so.
2007-02-17 09:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋