My daughters dad doesnt want me to feed her pork???

Question

He has her for 2 nights a week, and I have the other 5 nights. He doesnt want her to eat pork because of his religion. However, he does not take her to services, or hasnt done any rites or anything on her like his other kids have had. I dont know how i feel, cause we eat pork around here a lot. Should I stop feeding her pork?

Answer 1

Feed them all pork

Answer 2

I don't know how to aproach this question. Because I'm not a parent. But I'd like to have my daughter/son participate in my religion even if my future wife doesn't want to. But since he obviously isn't getting her involved in his religion, tell him that it's his religion, not hers.

Also the religious belief of not eating pork was formed a long time ago, back when eating pork was dangerous due to parasites. But pigs now-a-days are alot more "Clean". So it's an outdated belief, but it's a serious belief that many old religions follow. I don't know I'm trying to look at it from a religous and practical viewpiont. But I mean if your daughter likes pork, then feed her pork.

Answer 3

Please read this. It is very important if you want your daughter to live and be healthy. Please go the webpage below.
www.giveshare.org/Health/porkeatdanger.html

Yes you should stop. It’s not just because his religion. Pork is the one of the worst thing you could eat. Pigs clean the earth. They eat their own manure, they don’t care they will eat anything. Their body does not clean it from their system. If you were to see how they process pork you would be disgusted. Have you seen molded food? When your food rots it molds from the outside in. Pork rots from the inside out. What does this tell you? When they cut the pig and see mold they just cut it out. It does not matter how long you cook the pig, the germs and bad stuff are still alive. You are feeding this and all the stuff the pigs eats to your daughter.

Answer 4

When your daughter is with you, feed her the pork if you choose. You can't cook two separate meals to please her father, especially if he doesn't even practice the religion he is preaching. If she is old enough, explain to your daughter, that in her fathers house she doesn't have to eat the pork, in your house, that's what is for supper if it is fixed. Explain to her that that's her fathers religious beliefs, but not yours. When she is old enough (you didn't state her age) she can decide for herself if she wants to eat the pork or not. You may also want to consider having you custody/divorce papers updated, stating which religion you want your daughter to practice. Good luck.

Answer 5

yeah, pork isn't the only source of food. To avoid conflict, just buy her something other than pork. Its really not difficult, and it will further prevent conflicts. Pork really isn't healthy anyway.

Answer 6

You have her most of the time, therefore it's your choice what she eats. When she's old enough to form an opinion on the matter, though, you should consider what she thinks.

Answer 7

What you do at your home is your business, what he does with his child at his home is his business. He can't dictate how you raise your child while she is with you. And, that goes both ways.

My ex is a christian, and takes our children to church the weekends she has the children. I am an atheist, and they do not go to church on the weekends I have them. Of course, they are too young to understand any of it either way.

The same goes for a friend of mine who is divorced. His daughter is 10 years old. He feels that she is too young to have a cell phone. Mom bought her one. When the child is with him, he takes the cell phone, and she gets it back when she goes back to mom. The mother tried to tell him that he had to allow her the cell phone when the child is with him. But, legally, he does not.

You raise your children as you see fit when they are with you. When they are with Dad, he is allowed to do the same as well.

Answer 8

Respect his wishes. It's the right thing to do.
I mean, it's not THAT much of a sacrifice for you, really, and it seems important to him. it will also teach your daughter that you and Dad respect each other eventhough you don't agree with each other all the time. This will help her to become a productive, well adjusted adult, which in my oppinion is what a parents job is anyway.

Answer 9

When she is with him she can eat pork but when she is with you feel her what you can afford...............Until she is old enough to make the decision herself

Answer 10

how old is she? Honestly, what you believe is just as important as what he believes. I would feed her whatever you decide to make for dinner, he has no say. Sounds like he is very controlling.