He has her for 2 nights a week, and I have the other 5 nights. He doesnt want her to eat pork because of his religion. However, he does not take her to services, or hasnt done any rites or anything on her like his other kids have had. I dont know how i feel, cause we eat pork around here a lot. Should I stop feeding her pork?
2007-02-17 09:25:50 · 14 answers · asked by Sarah 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Yes you should please respect their religion.
2007-02-17 09:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by nobody 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to priortize what's important to you as a parent. Most studies show that consistency is really important to kids- so you and her father need to get together on this one. If it really is difficult to not feed her pork, talk to him about that and see if you can come to a decision that doesn't put your daughter in the center of an argument. The worst thing you can do is use her to make a point.
I don't think you can say just because someone doesn't practice as strictly as you want them to undermines their spiritual choices. People have very different ideas on what religon means to them and to draw a line anywhere winds up making someone "not religious enough". Most importantly, your daughter needs a clear message about religion and dietary choices right now, not to be at the center of a battle.
2007-02-17 09:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by lifestooshort 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can show your daughter (and others) that you can be the "better" person by willingness to respect his part in her life.
And, in absolute disagreement with what others here posted... yes, I was reading a law case last night where the issue of religion came up, with a divorced day, who was upset that his daughter (who considered herself Jewish like him) was being pressured into attending church.
Court ruled in his favor. And chastised mom for putting the child in the "middle" of an adult dispute.
In the LONG run, you lose nothing by showing your kids that you can compromise on his behalf. If she had a food allergy, you would find a discreet way to handle it, right?
As the old saying goes.. pick your battles. Trust me.. this is a minor dispute, and how you handle it can defuse the next one.
2007-02-17 15:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by wendy c 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have her 5 nights a week I would feed her what you eat including pork. If he doesn't want her eating pork then he doesn't have to feed it to her but there is no reason that she should not eat it at your house.
2007-02-17 09:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Feed her what the rest of you eat at home. If it were so important to him for religious reasons he would be more involved in his religion and he would take the time to educate her in his religious beliefs. Until then...how does a grilled ham & cheese sound! Mmmm.
Don't inconvenience yourself for him. Not that you have to be mean about it but seriously, why should he dictate what you do at your own home? Plus, if everyone else is eating a pork chop, I'm sure your daugter won't want a turkey burger or falafel.
2007-02-17 09:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Would you be comfortable if he forced his religious belief to her? What if your religious belief prohibited eating a certain food and he insisted on offering it to her to eat? Would that make you happy?. I think you should try to understand him and respect his views. I assume he is Jewish or Muslim. There is nothing wrong with not eating pork healthwise.
2007-02-17 09:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by anlarm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jesus cast the liberals to the swine.
And then forbid the eating of pork.
2007-02-17 09:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's your child.... Feed the girl pork.
2007-02-17 09:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by irishcharmer84 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. Tell him that he cannot allow her to eat pork but you will continue to serve it to her and if she dosen't want it she'll say something.
2007-02-17 09:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by politicsforthefuture 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You havent mentioned how old she is. If it concerns him enough, he can just keep educating her about his beliefs until she is old enough to decide for herself. Dont be pressured by him but at the same time be prepared to be open minded for the time when she makes her decision.
2007-02-17 09:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf07 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
is not a law against you feeding her pork so you don't need to tell him if she tells him well no biggie...Do wetever you feel is right....
2007-02-17 09:50:11 · answer #11 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋